I don't have contacts for anyone.      Chad Doubrava's number is 315-863-0395.        I miss Grandma and don't want to grow apart from everyone.   

She talked about being a banker (I guess I’m following her legacy) and retiring from Lacks, her marriage and her love for every member of her family. Our grandma was fiery but a jokester and at times we all thought we were her favorite. We never knew if it was a joke or she was being serious. Can someone tell
me if Bryan really stole an ambulance and escaped from treasure island or if Etta really smoked a cigarette one time? 

She hosted weddings at her home, worked so many hours to support her family, held our babies when they were born and gave us a listening ear when life may not have been going our way. In truth we are all her favorites. Mary was a humble women and the most important things to her we were all her family and friends. 

She has influenced all of us so greatly. The dictionary says a legacy is someone or something that is left in remembrance of the previous generation. Grandma you have left a legacy of love, acceptance, forgiveness and what family truly is. Even though she would say one day she will have to leave us I always thought of her as immortal superhero. I think we were both right she did have to leave us but we are her legacy and she will be immortal by us passing on her same pranks, laughter and love to the next generation. 

She has given all of us a million smiles, laughs, tears and more stories than we will ever be able to tell. Have you heard the one about where she shot Bryan with a BB gun or shenanigans Bingo with Etta or Karen being her constant buddy.

I know we will miss you everyday of our lives, but just like you told me once we can just imagine you are on the moon. Then we can look up and still talk to you. 

Those who touch our lives inspire us and love us for a lifetime. Today we honor and celebrate her life and love. Our lives were better because of you and you will always be in our hearts. Good bye Grandma Mary there will never be another like you. 


On a tombstone there is a date filled with joy a dash then a date of sadness. Today we are here to celebrate the dash between these two dates for Mary Frances Backus. She lived 80 years 2 months and 15 days. 

Our parents give us life but Our grandparents give us a sense of who we are and where we came from. What made grandma Mary special? She loved deeply and fully. She was the kind of person who just had more love in  her heart for all who joined her life. Today we say goodbye to Grandma, going through pictures and reliving past memories it hit me how incredibly lucky I have been to have her in my life. 

The first time I officially met Mary was when I was being introduced to her as a long lost daughter for her son. Her response “well I know who you are get over here and give me a hug” she was matter of fact and that’s just how she was. 

It is rare for a grandparent to have so many grandchildren and maintain relationship to be so essential and long lasting but then again he was an exceptional person every single day of her life. Don’t get me wrong. Grandma Mary was tough and if you wanted something sugar coated she was not the person to ask. But she loved hard. 

Grandma Mary leaves behind three children, Bryan Brumley, Etta Talbot and Karen Thomas. She was preceded in death by one son Jimbo Brumley. She also had a large extended family including 16 grandchildren and 20 great grandchildren. This is my perspective of our grandma Mary. 

She was always present, ready for a hug, and always did crossword puzzles. Don’t you touch her crossword puzzle. She was part of our lives in such a tangible way. 

In the same breath she would praise you but don’t forget she could also give you a good scolding too. Look around…. Are there people you don’t speak to currently or keep in touch with. Please remember no matter what you did no matter how crazy it was she never disowned anyone or cut them out. For grandma family is family. We should be more like grandma. 


I'm not a public speaking kind of person, I wanted to stand up yesterday but couldn't.  I have alot of memories with Grandma, some really early ones like aunt Kathy and her introduced me to my first grilled cheese sandwich while they were showing us kids the ET movie for the first time. I also remember Grandma playing Legos with me as a kid, we were building a Lego house one day but it got late, I went to sleep on the couch and woke up the next morning to see that she had finished building the house through the night. I remember painting ceramics with her as a kid and the orange bobble head cat we made.  My favorite memory has to be a few years ago I dragged Grandma to opening night premieres of both Avengers Infinity War and Avengers Endgame.   Opening weekend, our Grandma pushing her way through the crowd of superhero dorks, it was amazing. I can still hear her saying, "there's Spidey-man" when he pops on the screen.   I have her texts messages to me screenshot and saved, I'll miss her so much.  I'm sorry I didn't stand and say this.  I love you grandma 

I love you to the moon and back! You supported all of my dreams and gave me the best advice when they seemed unreachable.

Francie and I spent  many years raising our children as close friends. There were times  of joy, sadness and sharing that my family and I will cherish always. See you later my friend..

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Mary Frances Backus

February 28, 1943 – June 12, 2023

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