I served in the New York Office of the FBI with Don between 1978 - 1985. You couldn't have met a nicer more gentlemanly person. We never worked together, but Don will always be tied to one of those legends of the NYO that I was involved with. It is remembered as the "radio incident" that occurred on Friday night, October 30, 1981. Don was the night supervisor, and he proved to be the consummate stand-up guy. Don was a man who exemplified calm in a storm, the kind of person you want with you when everything is breaking loose. I haven't seen Don in all these years but I can safely say that I will never forget him. Someone more poetic than I once said that memories are the roses of wintertime. I trust that Don left many good memories behind that will help sustain the loss to his family and friends. He was everything that was right with the FBI and our country. 

Cousin Pam, Uncle Joe, Aunt Lois.  Truly sorry to hear about  Don's sudden passing. You all have each other and I'm sure you will keep him close with your fond memories.

So sorry to hear about Don.  I worked with Don in the Oklahoma City office of the FBI.  He was a real gentleman.  I will miss him.

Pam 
Many years have passed since ours days in the NYO and being your friend and  neighbor in Scotch Plains  NJ ...and sailing with Don on Long Island Sound . I will always remember his quick wit, sarcastic humor , his dedication to the FBI and how he loved you and the kids . I am deeply saddened and profoundly sorry for your loss and Dons  sudden passing . 
Sylvia Garrison   ( Sylvia. Garrison@ att. Net)

My dearest Pam. I just learned about the loss of your beloved husband. Please know that I am praying for you and your family, that God gives you strength, and that you feel his presence all around you, that the waves of grief ease and the love from all of us, helps you cope in the coming days. I am so very, very sorry for your loss,my friend. I am sorry I couldn't come this evening. You are in my heart and my prayers .

Joe and Lois, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family on Don's very sudden passing.

Pam,
I am so sorry to hear about your husband. I can't imagine. Thoughts and prayers for you and your family.

Dearest Whitehead family, I worked under Don's tutelage at the Springfield FBI office.  I ran into to him in November @Meijer and we had the best chat for about 40 minutes, just like to years had gone by.  I am so incredibly sorry for your loss, but I was so fortunate to have spent that chat time, as a reminder of what a joy for life he had and reflected onto others.

Dear Pam and family, I was surprised and deeply saddened to learn of Don's passing. I was the ASAC's secretary when he was SAC of the Springfield Division. You couldn't find a nicer person or better SAC to work for/with. He spoke of you and his family often and fondly. He truly loved you all and it showed. His sense of humor and smile always brightened up the front office. He was always nice to me and we had some good laughs. He was proud of his FBI accomplishments and rightly so. He will be greatly missed by many. My thoughts and prayers are with you all at this difficult time.  May God bless you richly.

Jim and I are so sad to hear this news. I am remembering today all of the wonderful times we had with you and Don. What a great husband and father he was. My prayers are with you and your family. Please contact me when you can I would love to have a conversation with you.

Pam, I'm so sorry to hear of your loss.  My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.  I miss you greatly and will always cherish the memories of our fitness classes and girls lunches.

Pam - I am so sorry for your lost of the love of your life. My heart is breaking for you and your family. I know it has been years but I have always cherished the great times we had together, buffet concerts and all the good evening just hanging out enjoying great conversations  we shared with you and Don. Jim and I will never forget this great man.  I would love to talk with you when the time is right. We are friends on Facebook, let me know a good contact thru the messaging and I will give you a call. I will pray for you and your family.

I first met Don at the "old" New York Office of the FBI and without question, he was one who exemplified the very essence of Fidelity, Bravery, and Integrity.  
Don was a total pleasure to deal with at every turn and a real gem of a man.
My heartfelt condolences go out to his family on his all too early passing.

So sad to hear about Don. He was a childhood friend. My parents, Glen and Joyce Ferguson were best friends with J C and Freda. Mom read it in the paper and asked if I could get more details. I was unable to contact Carolyn or Patricia, so please ask them to email me or give me a call at 9184243149, ghutchison5@yahoo.com  Our thoughts and prayers are with the family.

To Don's Family, I was shocked to hear of Don's passing. I believe I first met Don in the NYO, and remained friends throughout our Bureau careers. I always enjoyed his sense of humor and insights into all things FBI. He was one of those people who seemed to have it all figured out. My sympathy and prayers to you all.

Jim, Andria and family, 
Losing someone so unexpectedly is truly the hardest part of life on this earth. Take comfort in the memories and stories they share of the amazing life and man your dad and papa was. Hold them tight and really try to focus on those and not the emptiness you feel right now. Big hugs to you. Let us know if we can do anything. xoxo, Erin, Chris & Cal Verbeck

Pam
I know a few written words cannot assuage the grief that you must be feeling at this time. I did not know your husband. I never was lucky enough to meet Don. Through our numerous conversations at Snap, I got a flavor of the kind of man he was. 
I would have liked him.
Please know that you and your family are in our thoughts and prayers.

Pam, Mike Shuler of the Little Rock Office informed me today of Don's passing. I served as a first office agent in Little Rock. I found Don to be one of the most honorable and fair handed persons I have ever met. I had the privilege of telling him so when I bumped into him on a blog for former agents. 

My prayers are with you and your family as I know it is a difficult time with much to do. I wish many blessings upon you and your family for the future.

Warmest Regards,

Scott C Williams

My deepest condolences to the Whitehead family, I met Don at the Fit Club he was always pleasant to talk to.

I am sad and surprised to hear of Don's passing.  I met him back when I worked for the Omaha Division and was assigned to the QCRA, which is co-located with Springfield Division.  I'm very sorry for your loss. - Howard B. Oller

I am very sad to hear of Don's passing.  My best to the family.

Chris Munger
FBI ret. NYO

Hi Pam, You have not met me but I am the nurse at the Fit Club. Don would work out on the stepper every day near my station and sometimes when I was not busy he would chat. We bantered a little about politics although I told him I could not discuss it on the job. Today I have been approached by several members who are going to miss Don. If it was up to me that stepper would have a plaque with his name on it. I think he inspired more people than he would admit to. My heart goes out to you and your family at this time. I truly wish you peace and comfort. I have met your father as well and know you must have a wonderful family to help you through.

Take Care

Andrea Fit Club nurse.

I just heard today of Don's passing and want to offer my sincere condolences.  I was also a first office Agent in Little Rock Division when Don was my ASAC. Many great memories during that time that I will always cherish! It was a great first office experience! I am so sorry for your loss.

Pam and family,
My deepest sympathy  to all of you at this most difficult time. You are in my thoughts and prayers. I remember all of the vacation stories that you told when you 2 were traveling.

Sincere condolences,

Connee Sloman

Shocked and very sorry to learn of Don's passing.  Knew him from our inspection time and time at FBIHQ.  I was assigned to Springfield as an SSA in the 1980's (where I also did my inspection time from) and talked to Don about the Division upon his selection as SAC. Simply put Don was a person with many great adjectives to describe him.  My condolences to his family.

Don was my first supervisor in the FBI's New York City office.  He provided me with valuable guidance and I am truly sorry to learn of his passing.  Please accept my condolences.
Bert Lacativo

So very sorry to hear of Don's passing. I was shipped to New York in 07/1982 and they put all of us newbies on the applicant squad to break us in, which Don supervised.  He was such a great boss to help ease the initial shock of getting adjusted to the Big Apple. My heartfelt condolences to his family. Nothing but good memories of a fine man.

Pam, Donald, my nephew, was a very special person to me.  As Sherry has said, we never would have survived our move to Oklahoma City had it not been for him and Carolyn.  I fondly remember when Donald brought you to Oklahoma City before you were married and I met you.  I felt at the time you were the perfect life partner for him -- and I was right!  He loved you, his children, and your parents greatly and you all gave him stability.  He achieved much in his life, and the two of you went on amazing adventures.  I loved him dearly, and I cherish the time we spent with him in Oklahoma City.  I loved the pictures of him, his family, and his adventures that you shared.  My thoughts are with you, your family, and your parents.

Pam,
   I am so sorry to hear about Don.  I had awesome times with him in Tulsa and with yall in New Jersey.  Will never forget the all nite party with you, Shirley, me and Don.  Also he and I trapesing all over the Jersey country side cutting firewood.  
   I saw him again on a case in Springfield and always thought we would visit sometime.  This is a reminder that we need to call or visit those we are friends with because life is too short.
   Don was very much one of the really good guys with an incredible dry sense of humor and a man of great character.  My prayers for you and your family.

Mark Young
Dripping Springs, TX

Pam, 
We are praying for you and your family during this difficult time. So sorry for your loss.
Ron & Brenda Cawley

     I am so sorry to hear of Don's passing. My condolences to his family.  We worked together in the New York Office and would run into each other occasionally throughout our career, and would reminisce about our time in the NYO.
     Terry Holstad, South Riding, Virginia

My contacts with Don were few, but treasured.  He was thoughtful and professional, and definitely walked on the sunny side.  A true gentleman and genuine American.  Much too young to depart us. Good memories will remain....
Ladell Farley, formerly of the Joplin MO FBI RA, now retired in Longview TX

Pam, I never met Don but feel like I knew him through 25 years of friendship with Carolyn. She has shared many stories highlighting her beloved brother's impressive career,  sage wisdom, and unparalleled humor.  Evident also through Carolyn's stories was that you, Pam, were the love of his life, and that family meant everything to him. Please accept my heartfelt condolences.

I served in Little Rock with Don when he was ASAC. My wife, Jayme and I remember him as a kind, decent man that always would help anyone in need. We are very sorry for your loss, God bless your family. Gary and Jayme

I went to high school with Don. He was one of those great guys that people looked up to. Always in the sun. 
I'm positive Don was a great husband and father. Sorry for your loss.

Pam - we were so sorry to hear of Don's passing. I was the SAC in Springfield from 2009-2011. Don gave me great advice and counsel during many workout sessions together at the Fit Club. Paula also has fond memories of Don at FBI events in the Division. He was a great man and friend. The Lord's comfort be with you and your family during this time.

Pam,

Don was a treasured colleague.  Profound regrets. 

Taylor Eubank, Pine Bluff, AR

So sorry to hear about Don.  We were high school friends, and both of us began working at the FBI in OKC on the same day in 1970.  Our parents grew up together in Scipio, OK. Thought of him often throughout the years. He was a good guy. So sorry for your loss.

Pamela....I am sorry to hear about Don's passing.  We graduated from McAlester High together.  I fondly remember the rides to lunch with him in his 1940 Ford!  J.C. and my father were 2nd cousins.

Charley Staton.....McAlester, Oklahoma

I loved Don's sarcastic humor.  He was a great guy to work for. I could always count on his support. I appreciated his guidance. I am sorry for your loss.

Pam- I am so sorry to hear of Don's passing. My thoughts and prayers are of you and your family. Doug Garrison

Like many of my colleagues, I knew Don when both of us were assigned to the New York Field Office. Although not on the same squads, I had many occasions to interact with Don on multiple matters. He was truly one of the more down to earth supervisors at the time, and a true gentleman. May he rest in peace and my sympathies go with his wife and family.

 Trish and I are so sorry to hear of this. Don and I knew each other well growing up in McAlester. While he was in St. Louis and I was in med school we would go out frequently. Last time  We saw the two of you was at a high school reunion.  We had a great time.
Thoughts and prayers are with you.

Pam, 
I am so sorry to read about Don's passing.  You do not know me but I feel that I do know you.  I was a friend of Don's from the FitClub and looked forward to seeing him 7 days a week.  We always had such good conversations about farming, carpentry work, cars and even politics--on which we never agreed. Very few days went by when your name did not come up. I could tell he respected and loved you very much. He also talked a lot about his kids and grandsons and of course your Mom and Dad. I am so happy I got to know Don and will greatly miss him.  I pray for you and the family in this time of sorrow and want you to know how he must have cherished every moment he had with you and his family.
A friend,
Larry Garrison

Don was my first ASAC when I reported from the FBI Academy to the Little Rock office and was easily the best manager I ever had the pleasure of working for, either within the FBI or during my earlier work experiences. Truly looked out for his people. Saddened to hear of his passing.

Pam, we are very sorry to hear of Don's
passing.  Our thoughts and prayers are 
with you and your family. 
Brian & Marilyn Taylor

Pam, my cousin Donald played an important role in my life when I was young. My mom and I moved to Oklahoma City and could'nt have made it through some difficult times without him and Carolyn. I remember his dry sense of humor. With time, geography and life you lose touch, but I've never lost the love I had for him and Carolyn. Thanks for sharing the many photos. I know he loved you and he had a wonderful life.. My thoughts are with you.

Pamela, I am very sorry to hear of Don's passing.  He was one of my favorite supervisors that I knew in my FBI career.  I don't think I ever met you, but I did talk with you on the telephone one night.  You may recall that Don was in Helena, AR to supervise a stakeout regarding a bank robbery the next day, and he became ill during the night. We were both in a motel in Helena, and around 2am, he called me and wanted me to take him to the hospital because he was in great pain.  While at the hospital, he requested I call you to let you know his situation.  I recall that you requested I not let the doctors there touch him, and I think you accurately diagnosed his problem as kidney stones.  That was an accurate diagnosis, because I don't think the emergency room doctor knew what his problem was.  Don was the Assistant Special Agent-In-Charge of the Little Rock Division of the FBI at the time, and was my supervisor during his entire stay in Little Rock.  We had many good and fruitful work experiences together, even though I was assigned in Jonesboro.  Don was the kind of a person that if you shoot straight with him, there would be no problem communicating with him. That is a very admirable trait in a supervisor.  I regret that Don passed at what I consider a young age.  Please accept my condolences to you and your family, and may your grief be consoled by the memories of a good husband, father, and friend.
                                                                                     John Brandon
                                                                                     (Jonesboro, AR)

Thinking of you during this difficult time. May the comfort of caring family and friends soften your sadness and may cherished memories bring you moments of comfort.

Pam, I was so shocked to hear of your husband's passing.  My sincere condolences to you and your family.  You will  be in my prayers this week as you lay your beloved husband to rest. {{hugs}}
Mel

Pam, I am so sorry for your loss.  You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.  May your memories help you through this most difficult time.

Katie, Our thoughts and condolences are with you and your family, and you are in our prayers. John, Gail and your friends at BJs.

So sorry. Don was such a unique and genuine man. You are in my thoughts Pam, Jim & Katie.

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Donald "Don" Boyd Whitehead

June 29, 1952 – January 11, 2017

Bisch Funeral Home

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