I just learned of Ruby's passing today, 15 month later and am so shaken by it. I had been trying to contact her from Southern Indiana where I moved in March 2016  but was unable to so I checked through this website then saw the beautiful photograph of her. We had breakfast, lunch, and sometimes dinner together for close to four years when we both lived in a beautiful retirement village in Lemon Grove before I had to move to Indiana. It started my day off at 6:30 every morning to talk and laugh with her. We talked long distance when I left but I still always missed her honesty, sweet spirit, advice, and laughter. A light has gone out here but I know whose light she lives in now.


Ruby was  Owen's cousin and unfortunately we didn't get to know her until  the last few years of her life.  The time we did have with her and her family are very precious memories to us.  She was so nice to us when we came to visit her  in her home and also when we came to her assisted living.  She shared memories of the family we were unaware of and very thankful to know about.  She always kept in contact after our meeting with cards and letters and was a great encouragement to Owen who has not been well himself for a couple of years.  Her prayers were very much appreciated.
We love her family and hope never to loose contact with them  and because of Ruby, we are sure we won't  as she instilled family values in  them too.  God has called her home and we know we will again see her.  We love you Ruby and your family.

Dear friends and family, Ruby was definitely one of my father’s and my favorite patients. She first came to my dad’s office in 1946. She had so many great stories of her early life in Tennessee and the way she came to San Diego and her great love and support for her family through difficult times. We knew she would always be in a good mood and worrying more about us than herself. She was a person who looked for the good in people and Pat and I feel very lucky to have know her.  She was a shining light to those around her through her whole life and we’ll miss her always. Our sympathy to Debbie and Mike and the whole family. Love, Pat and Pear

How can words alone express the deep love & gratitude I feel for my mother of 68 years? They just can't, but this is my feeble attempt. She was never a "gushy" kind of mother who was always showering my dad, brother, & me with kisses and hugs, for she didn't learn it from her parents. She felt it but never quite knew how to express it. Yet, there was never any doubt in our minds that she loved each of us steadfastly & unconditionally. She was never a room mother, a girl scout leader, or a team mother for my brother & me. Yet, we always knew she was quietly behind the scenes rooting us on because she was our best cheerleader and best friend.  

She never had a career outside the home, never had an opportunity to go to college, never got to take piano lessons. This was not because she didn't ever have a desire to do these things, but because they were never made available to her. Yet, she was greatly respected by our family, friends, & neighbors for all she accomplished right where God placed her. Her determination to make the best of life circumstances was her trademark. She was renowned among family & friends for her cooking & inviting them into our home for a delicious, home cooked meal.  Only her family, & maybe her closest friends, knew of her self-taught music skills & her love of quilting. I, too, have a love for music & some beautiful handmade quilts because of her. She certainly made a huge impression on all my friends with her kindness & thoughtfulness when they would come to our home. She was dearly loved & respected by nearly all who knew her. She never lacked friends because she was such a faithful friend to so many. 

I think if I asked her today what she would consider her greatest achievement in life, she would tell me it was instilling a sense of being loved  in our home & a faith in God. This legacy she left to us, her family. It was something she lived each day & it lives on in her grandchildren & great-grandchildren. We love you mom!!!













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Ruby Abbott

August 23, 1923 – August 7, 2018

Cypress View Mausoleum, Mortuary and Crematory

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