Hey bro it’s that day again smh it never really does get an easier but as the years go by, I just remember every happy memory I have with you!! so we don’t mourn your death every year we have some type of little picnic for you in remembrance of all the good and happy times. I love you, your little sister Shannon ❤️ 

Ps. I was talking to 🎀shalynn🎀 about when we used to jump The garage roof with you and about you taking me on the dirt bikes when I was 8 😂 mom wasn’t too happy about those. I forgot she didn’t know well now she does. 😂

Miss you cuz. More than a year and still such a shock. Still remember being "2 big friendly giants", "making an X", Playing matchbox cars, palying "rabbits with rabies" tag with Jade and Jasmine and other stuff.

Its hard to believe its been almost a year. Just when we started to get close fate took u away. I love u n miss u much bro

My loving Son,I went to your crash site yesterday and cried. I still ask God why he took you away and not me instead. We pulled some weeds,cleaned up and lit 2 prayer candles. I hope you liked the orange flowers! I love you!

Son,I love you dearly and miss you so much. This memorial is soon to be done here but I am going to buy this in book form. I hope everyone has left their memories of you here that wished to. You are always with me in my heart and mind!

                 Love Mom

Gone but never forgotten,Your missed by many,I can't tell you how many people I have told the pool table story to and its still sitting in my basement waiting for you to help me put it together, I contacted someone about doing some duct work for me and when he was there I told him the story,turns out hes Cherishs husband,small world indeed or fate.

Hey barry, its jas... i miss you and wanted to make a last entry in here before ur mom purchased it. its been almost a year, crazy feels like you never left because i didnt see you much for a long time until right before you passed, wish i would have. you were an awesome and funny person. everytime i drive up to my dads i can still hear you  laughing when we both almost hit that guy on the bike. im glad i have that memory and being able to tell you i loved you. Your cousin always and forever... love you!!

Barry I can't believe it's almost a year since you left us.  I wish I had the chance to get to know the real you.  We all love & miss you.  But I know you are watching over us Cuz.  It's already 2 yrs since we lost Jolee.  It's so hard for us all to comprehend sometimes.  I wish I could do or say to help your Mom and the rest of the family but I know there isn't anything that helps.  We miss you at our crocquet games.  We will keep your memory alive

Good morning Barry,
   Your cousin Jasmine called me the other night with the idea to have a picnic with your friends and family in remembrance of you and being the sweetheart Jazzy is,she made me a host as well. We have already heard from a lot of people as I knew we would cause you were a good man and helped a lot of people. I only wish this picnic would have you there. I love you so much my son. I wish I could be with you but for now Shalynn needs me. I hope you will be there in spirit to see how many people love you!

My Son and friend,I miss you so much. It's been 10 months since you went away but the pain in my heart feels like it was just yesterday. I still don't understand why God took you away from us and left me behind! Losing you my Son was the worst thing that could have happened but it did and now there is an empty hole in my heart that can not be fixed. If I had one wish,it would be to have you live! I love you!

hey uncle barry,
 i feel much better now and i think you helped me alot.thank you so much you really helped me and when i told you to visit me you did i seen you last night but i wish you can visit again love you and see you soon love you
your niece shalynn

Good morning Son,
   I have so much on my mind and am so sad and stressed that I don't know what to do any more. There is a something wrong with your Niece as I am sure you know. Please try to help,maybe you can ask God to please help her. I miss you every day and love you so much! I wish I could be with you.

                   Love Mom

You were a good friend to me. I will never forget what you done for me and good friends are always hard to find. God bless and R.I.P Barry

Good morning Barry,
   I am so stressed and frustrated that I do not know which way to turn. I miss you so badly. I am sure you are watching over all of us and know everything that is going on. If it is possible please ask God to help me. Thank you Son. I love you.

My Son,I wish I could have seen you turn another year older but God took you away! I love you dearly and miss you so bad. The tears have not and never will stop flowing for you! I hope to be with you soon.

                  Love Mom

It's Christmas Eve and this will be the first one without you. You and Jen used to come down here and spend Christmas Eve with me and Christmas day with her mom. I have been crying most of the day already and I am sure it isnt over. I love you Son.

                   Love Always,Mom

Hello Son,
   I just wanted to tell you how much I miss you. I am supposed to be going to your Uncle Barry's Xmas party Saturday but I am sick so I will probably miss it. It would be nice to see people I haven't seen in a very long time. I love you!

               Love Mom

I wish you could have been here to celebrate your littlest nephew John John's 1st birthday on the 9th. You were sadly missed Son. I love you and miss you.

               Love Mom

Good morning Barry,
    Christmas is coming and every Christmas Eve you and Jen would come down and spend it here and it is going to be so hard without you. Then your birthday coming on Jan 8th after and I don't know how I am going to be able to deal with it. I miss you so much.

                 Love Mom

Hello Son,
    Missing you every day and wishing you would be here. My life just doesn't seem to matter any more. You were my baby boy even though you were grown ,just like your sister is my baby girl. Things are just crappy all the way around and I just don't care any more. I tried to find meaning but the more I try the worse things get. I'm sure you understand cause you can see everything. I love you!

Hey bro I lite a candle for u couple days before thanksgiving there was some wierd stuff going on wen I was in moms living room kinda scary til I thought of u n started to laugh...miss u see u later...

Barry,
  Tomorrow's dinner won't be the same without you. Your Grand Mom is coming down to eat if she is feeling up to it and I am hoping she does. I'd like to say a prayer before dinner tomorrow which I normally don't do but really feel the need to and I hope you will be with us all in spirit. We all love you and miss you so much. I hope God made you an Angel cause you definitely deserved your wings. And I hope when it is my turn to come home,you are there to greet me. Shalynn and I were just talking this morning about you getting to meet John Lennon and Steve Irwin the crocodile hunter in person and it made us both smile. I love you always.
 
                 Mom

Hello Son,
   I am so tired and stressed out lately I do not know what to do. I wish you were here so I could talk to you. I miss you stopping by and digging in the cabinet for a snack and a glass of icy tea. I am just so glad that every time you stopped by I gave you a hug,a kiss on the cheek and I'd tell you to be careful. Oh God I miss you my Son and I can not even go one day without crying for you. You've been gone 5 months but I still hurt in my heart like it was just yesterday. I wish I could be with you,pop pop Roeder and Nanny. I am really going to be a mess on Thanksgiving cause you always came down to eat with us. I love you!

                  Mom

Good morning Barry,
   I couldn't sleep again last night cause I can't seem to get the accident and your death off my mind. You were an excellent driver and I still believe someone pulled out in front of you and made you crash. I wish there was a way to find out for sure so at least that part of my mind could be at ease but never will I get over your death. I love and miss you so much!

                Love Mom

Dear Barry,
   I tried to write you a little poem but I just break down and cry,
   I often think about you watching us all, when I look up at the night sky,
    My Son,I miss you so much and think about you all the time,
    And I pray to God to please bring you back and instead of your life,take mine,
    You loved to joke and make people laugh even though sometimes you were in pain,
    You always were helping someone out and I am proud of the man you became.

              I love you Son!

Wow im gona miss u on thanksgiving..but ill be thinking of u just like I do everyday

Hey bro I love you hope u soon good....i look at u erry dayi pass moms wall... Love u

Good morning Barry,
   I missed you stopping by to wish me a Happy Birthday yesterday and I was so sad. This was one of the roughest days without you. I love you my Son.

                    Love Mom

My cousin..my best friend....there is no one in this world that could ever replace you...I think of you everyday....but one day I will be seeing you again.but for now keep watching over all of us down here..I'm so glad we developed a bestfriend/cousin relationship...your in my heart forever...luv ya Barry...

Barry my Son,I am really sad most of the time cause it is hard facing the fact that this birthday you won't be stopping by or calling to wish me a happy one. My heart is so broken in pieces. I miss you. I was so proud of the man you became. You helped so many people and had a heart of gold. I love you Son.

Hey Barry,

   Guys night at my place tonight, going to miss having you there physically but I know your spirit will be there, I miss you my nephew and friend. I still haven't put the pool table together that we took apart,took us 2 days because we kept playing and drinking instead of taking it apart,lol

Hello Dawn
You probably don't remember me.  I was Barry's counselor at Kids Peace.  He brought me over to your home on several occassions.  Barry was one of my favorite students.  His knowledge about motorcycles was exceptional.  I was stunned when I read about him paassing.  Dawn, have faith thats in a mustard seed and you will be fine.  Words cannot express how a Mother feels when she has lost her son.  May God bless you.

Morris L. Williams
Montgomery, Al

Happy Halloween Barry! This is yet another first holiday without you. You weren't really into Halloween but it still isn't the same without you. I just can't seem to get over the pain in my heart. You are my only Son and I wasn't suppose to have to go to my Son's funeral. I would give anything including my own life for you to live. I still don't understand why God had to take you away.

Hey cousin...I know your looking down and seeing I'm going thru a hard time... my kids hav been sick lately...I wish I could talk to u about it. You always knew how to cheer me up n make me smile...I miss you so much it still hurts...please watch over everyone...luv u so much...

Good morning Son,
    I have sent Jen text messages several times but never get an answer as I am sure you know. I thanked her for the things of yours she had sent down with Jasmine. I miss and love you so much. I hope to see you soon!
                       Love, Mom

Dear Uncle Barry, 
   I bet you are having fun riding your motorcycle. I miss and love you very much.  
               With Love,
          Your Niece Shalynn

Good morning Barry,Just wanted to tell you I miss you. I am having such a hard time with pain and not being able to sleep.I just don't understand why God took you when you had such a long life ahead of you and you were doing so good and left me here. I would have given up my life for yours without a thought.  Love always, Mom

Hi bro, I miss and love you so much...I wish I could hug you one last time just to see you would make my day. I think about you all the time I wish we would have got together that weekend and you could have seen your new nephew he is 7 months now and you are gonna be a great uncle. I know you are looking down on us my son always looks up and smiles and talks and right away I think of you!!!Love you so much

Hello Son, 
  I couldn't sleep again so I thought I'd talk to you for awhile. It was very hard for me to smile for the family pictures at your Grand Mom's 80th birthday party cause all I thought about was that you were missing in them. I love you so much and miss you. It is hard being on this earth without you my only Son.

My only Son,I miss you so much. It is so hard to keep going on without you.

                 Love Mom

Hello Son,
  I love you and miss you just as bad as I have when you first left. I will never forget your witty personality or your big smile. I bet that its you turning my radio on and off too. LOL I love you and always will.

Hi Barry,
  I miss you and love you. Your Sis ter Shannon misses you too and it acting like you are just on a vacation. That helps her deal! I am still burning prayer candles for you at home as well as the crash site. I miss you so much!

I was glad to have a cup of coffee with you this morning. I am sorry I cried so much. I just miss you so bad my Son. I am going to the crash site as I always do every Saturday. I have another prayer candle,some lavender incense and flowers from my garden to bring. I got a tattoo and also got a t-shirt made with your picture on standing with your motorcycle. I love you Son!

I love you Son and miss you so much. There aren't any words to express the pain in my heart. If God collects our tears as I heard He does,mine will over flow an ocean.

Good morning Son, I miss you so much. I want to thank you for being with me and watching over me Saturday night. You are my guardian angel. The hurt in my heart is unbearable but I am holding on for you. I hope to be with you soon. I love you so much but I know I have to wait a little longer. I love you!

I want to thank all of you for doing this benefit in honor of my Son Barry. I will get there some how. I need to have some positive things going on in my life where my Son is concerned. The grief I am going through in unbearable. Again thank you all so much!

Bar its jas. Missing u still but keeping it together. Had another close call w a guy on a bike and started laughin rememberin the way u got out of ur truck crackin up the last time that happened.... Love you

Benefit picnic for Barry
Sarurday July 30 
2-6pm @ Fleetwood park
Food,DJ,raffle & bake sale 
$10 donation - adult
$5 donation - kids
All procedes will go to help with funeral expenses.

Your cousin Jasmine brought me some of your t-shirts yesterday and I could smell you on them. I wore the black one with silver on it all day and night. I gave your sister one and I kept the other in a plastic bag so I can keep the smell for awhile. It made me cry so hard cause I miss you so bad. I just want to get off this God forsaken earth and be with you,your pop pop Roeder, and Nanny. Today is the crash site visit and I will be there just as I've been every Saturday. See you soon Son.

Jenn,
My thoughts and prayers, as well as those of Maria's, are with you as you experience your loss.

I will always remember your kindness and caring as I was going through challenging times.

We miss your presence at BCLC!

Peace be with you, Jen.

Love,
Sandie Evans

To my Nephew who was like a little brother to me I think about you everyday and regret that I won't get to spend more time with you, but I will always cherish the time we did get to spend together and how much you reminded me of myself with the jokes and laughs, I'l see you on the other side Barry.

Good morning Son. I am still crying for you every day cause I miss you so much and don't know what to do. It is very hard to be here without you. You were my only son and now you are gone!

Barry may u rest in peace, u will be missed by ur family and friends. And u will be thought of constantly. I am so sorry for ur family, especially ur mother. A mother should not have to bury their children. God be with u and ur family.

Happy 4th of July Barry! Today is Leon's birthday so of course I will be there today. I've been trying to keep myself busy so I was helping them clean up and decorate. I made the deviled eggs you loved and used to sneak! LOL I love you so much Son!

Barry, I'll never forget when you brought your caiman to the Tobias family reunion all those years ago, my little sister thought it was a dinosaur! We finally had another one this past Saturday after all these years, sorry we missed you. But we did have a moment of silence for you and others we have lost, including your grandmom's nephew George Tobias who passed away just one week after you. I joked with my mom that y'all were having your own little reunion in heaven.
I'll also never forget all the funny things you used to say on facebook; I still laugh with the conversation we had with Jasmine and I guessed your middle name, lol i said it was genetic cuz she said she knew everything.
Miss you!

Still miss you so much! After my dr appt I went to Tex you like I always did,, you always made me because you worried about me!! But this time I couldn't! :( you will live on in my heart forever!! Love you cousin Barry!!!!

Dawn i am so sorry  know that i am thinking and praying for you and your family 
     your friend   jay

Your sister Shannon,Niece Shalynn and I visited the crash site just like we do every Saturday! I cleaned up the burnt candles and dead flowers. I brought another prayer candle and flowers. Your sister brought you your favorite icy tea and someone else had brought a candle as well. We will continue to visit every Saturday as long as it is humanly possible. I love and miss you Son!

Jennifer
I am sorry for your family loss.  I reas about Barry while reading the Reading paper.  I live in Montgomery Al.  Barry was one of my favorite student.  He loved motorcycles as a young kid.  He talked to me about them often.  God bless you and the Roeder family.

Barry u will b forever missed but everytime i look at Ricky i will think of u. The scars will last forever and so will ur memory. Till we meet again, Chrissy

Ruth & family..I am so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine losing one of my children or grandchildren!
your cousin, Nancy Price Wagner

Jen,
I am so very sorry for your loss.  My thoughts and prayers are with you and the family in your time of need. Please call if you need anything at all.  Take care.

Jen,Please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you in the time of tragedy.When I met you guys I knew that we would become good friends. Dawn,please know that I am thinking of you as well.I cant imagine the pain you are going through.Barry... I am going to miss you so much. I already miss the sarcastic comments from you. You were a one of a kind friend. You would do anything for anyone and not think twice about it. Thank you for all your help that you have given with my & Jose's bike.You will be missed!

Barry I didn't get to know what a beautiful & caring person you turned out to be until recently.  These past years you were so happy.  I'm glad you got to know what that felt like.  we will miss you dearly & am so glad I got to spend time with you & the family.  Family is everything.  We must stick together & forget all past wrong doings.  Life is so short.  Jen, Dawn , Aunt Ruth & the rest of the family we are here for you like you were for us.  We love you all very much.

Jennifer, I am so sorry for your loss.  You have many wonderful memories to sustain you.  He is a great guy and will always be with you no matter what.

Strength, Peace and Courage to you Jen and your family.

Jen,
My heart goes out to you at this most difficult time. Many you feel the presence of the Holy Spirit in the months ahead. Try to focus on happy times you had together.

Dear Dawn,
I was so saddedned to hear of Barry's passing.  Barry and I went to school together for many years.  My mom also sends her condolences.  We are thinking and praying for you at this very difficult time.

Wth our deepest sympathy,
Kelly Weaver and Patty Fisher

Jen, You're in my prayers often throughout each day as you mourn. May you feel God's strength to help you cope with your loss. Love and prayers.

My Dearest Son,I love you so much and I miss you. I am so glad that when you would visit my last memory of you was a hug,a kiss,me telling you I loved you and to drive careful. I do not know how I am going to go on without you! I love you and can not eat or sleep! I wish this was all just a bad dream!

          Love Mom

Gosh, I just don't know what to say but I can't believe it. You will be missed Barry. I liked seeing your kidding around with Jasmine on facebook! I feel so much for your family's loss; especially your mom. You are in a much better place and with your family who has passed on before you. It's hardest for those left behind. But we know we have work to do here yet before we can see you again. And we will see you! I know you're learning much there. What a grand reunion it will be when our time is up here on earth and we can see each other again.

I was saddened to hear of your passing. It's been years since we hung out but I'll never forget the good times on 11th street. When we spoke in September, I wish we would have went through with hanging out again, now it's too late. The world lost a great guy. I'm sorry for your family's loss~ well, everyone's loss! RIP Barry

Dear Barry...You will live on in the memories of everyone you touched in life...We have made a donation in your name in order to care for the animals that you appreciated so much in life.
Please play with Max for us.

Barry you are missed by so many. I know in my heart that your dad Barry, your brother Brian and your Uncle Ed (my husband) were all with you that night and still are. You are in loving hands. Love you

TO DAWN N FAMILY, Barry will b so missed.he is sittn back watchn over your family w his grandpop n his dad.just remember he loves all of u very much
   james n terrie bortz n family

DEAR DAWN:I AM SADDEN TO HEAR THE LOST OF YOUR SON BARRY.WE GO ALL THE WAY BACK TO GLENSIDE WHEN MY SON AND BARRY GREW UP TOGETHER,AND YOU AND I SHARED MANY HEART ACKS,PAIN,AND MOST OF ALL LAUGHTER.I AM LOST FOR WORDS .MEMORIES WILL ALWAYS BE IN MY HEART FOR BARRY.GOD BLESS YOU AND THE FAMILY.LOVE BRENDA DE BOOTH TYSON AND FAMILY

Barry my good friend u will be missed but not forgotten i will always rememeber the good times we had riding hangin out  workin on the bikes...Sry it ended this way,may u R.I.P. love always jose flores

Barry,I love you and miss you so much. Thank you for the smiles you brought to my face and know i will help take care of your mommy and be there for your family.    Love Aunt Jackie

barry you will be sadly missed and thought of every minute of everyday.i never thought i would have to write something like this.shannon has been my best friend for soo many years and your mother is like a mother to me and losing you feels like i just lost my brother words can't explain the pain in all of our hearts.u will be sadly missed we love you barry

Sorry we didn't get to hang out much but you are and always will be missed. You were taken from this earth way too soon. Your memory will always remain in everyone's hearts. Love ya bro! RIP Barry.

Barry-a friend,brother, husband, uncle, You will be sadly missed but never forgottten. Our condolensces go out to Jen and family and we will be here for you in any way we can to help ease the pain through this unfortunate time.

barry, i will miss you so much! i keep looking at my phone thinking your texting me one of your jokes! i will deeply miss your texts!! you will always be in my heart!! say hi to my dad for me! till we meet again gone but not forgotten!!! love your cousin cherish!!!!

Barry i love you so much you will always be in my heart and thoughts..big brother all the good times we had never bad.. Watch over us..r.i.p love you---your little sister

Dear Jen,
Our thoughts and prayers are with you.  Barry truly was a great man and will be remembered and missed always.  If you need anything, please don't hesitate to call.

My brother my friend,we only had this past year together...wish we could of had our lifes together...we had so many plans for this summer and you never got to see your new nephew, my heart aches in such pain till we see you again much love brother love your sis?

Uncle Barry we had so much planned and never got the time to do it. We miss uu soo much :( cant believe this relli happend i love uu sooo much && i will see uu soon yer in our hearts forever ?

Our prayers of comfort to you Dawn and the entire family during this time of sorrow. May God put his band of angels around you all.

What a shock to hear of Cousin Barry's passing. My heart goes out to Jennifer, Dawn, Aunt Ruth, ,and the entire family. It had been a very long time since I last saw Barry, but I know he was loved dearly and will be greatly missed. I know he is now with a loving Father in Heaven and that his family will again see him. Please know you are in our thoughts and prayers.

Jen, Dawn, and Shannon - So sorry for your loss, Barry will be missed.

Words seem inadequate to express the sadness felt by the loss of Barry.  I consider myself truly blessed to have called him my friend.
May the peace that comes from the memories of love shared, comfort you now and in the days ahead.

With sincere sympathy,

OBITUARY

Barry Roeder

January 8, 1976 – June 18, 2011

Auman's Inc. Funeral Home

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