Truly a beloved man, by many! Sweet Hayden you will be sorely missed. God bless your everloven heart and soul. Thinking of Tony, stay strong XO  ~Blessed Be~
Love, May & Banika

Tony my prayers are with you Hayden was a great man i loved him dearly i loved our Tuesday night talks when he was working

Hayden --> Another generation of ground breaking pioneers for our community will be greatly missed! WE must never never forget where we've come from and how we got there! Thank you Hayden for paving part of the road! Much love....and light!

You will be missed you was a pillar of strength to our community may god bless and keep you and your family safe and comfort for tony may he have the strength to carry on

was shocked to hear of hayden's passing. tony, you're in my prayers at this time and always. love ya bunches, miss tonya lee

You will be missed, and may you rest in peace..

In loving memory of Hayden Compton Allen Jr.

My heart is deeply saddened to hear of the passing of Hayden. It was an honor to have known, worked with, and have been taught by a man who took the time of day with those he never had to. My deepest condolences, thoughts and prayers are with you Tony in this indescribable time of heartache and pain. My prayers also are offered for Hayden's family and the multitude of friends in Oklahoma City and across the US. Through you, his memory lives on.

With love and respect,

Thanks for the good times...and the extra helping of 'unusual'...your warm greeting will be missed..

We always loved seeing you and Tony - what an amazing duo - you will be greatly missed - prayers and thoughts to Tony and your extended family...  You all are so loved...

Hayden,& Tony, We always enjoyed patronizing your establishments, it was a great time to party and absorb the wonderful entertainment. Hayden we know you are in a peaceful place now, and Tony our prayers and thoughts are with you.

The first bar I ever went to Was Tony's Club North on Western with Wendyl Watts in December 1981.  I was nervous and I was welcomed by Hayden's warm smile at the door. Wendyl told him I had never been in a bar before.  Hayden told me I would have a great time.  Hayden and Tony made sure we all had many great times.  Rest in Peace Hayden.

"He has achieved success who has lived well, laughed often and loved much; who has gained the respect of intelligent men and the love of tiny puppies ; who has filled his niche and accomplished his task; who has left the world better than he found it, whether by an improved flower, a perfect poem, or another life ennobled; who has never lacked appreciation of earth's beauty or failed to express it; who has always looked for the best in others and given them the best he had; whose life was an inspiration and whose memory a benediction."

I believe this perfectly describes Hayden and how he lived his life. I am lucky to have known him as long as I did.

Hayden Allen you were always one of the brightest lights in Oklahoma City. Tony by your side, you two quietly paved the way for so many men and women to live dignified lives....and my god the great food and wonderful hospitality you dispensed for as long as I lived in Oklahoma City will never, ever be forgotten. Your quiet, steady, unflappable attitude was a comfort and a beacon for so long! Rest in Peace, and here's to drag racing on Friday nights in Heaven!

Hayden. I only knew of you through your freind, Leland, but I know in my heart you were a great man. My heart gives lots of love in your honor to Tony and your family. Peace and love to all.

We have enjoyed many,many things made possible by Hayden and Tony. Their establishments made a safe place for all to enjoy life. You both have this community's greatest appreciation. 
Rest in Peace Hayden

My dear friend Hayden you will be truly missed. I will always cherish our some 30 year friendship. Tony my prayers go out to you, my dear friend.
                                                                 Manuel ( Manny ) Crusto, okc

Hayden, you were a great person and lots of fun.  We all miss you terribly, but we know that you will continue to do great things through the inspiration you provided so many people.

Hayden, you were a funny, kind, and generous man. A true credit to our community. You will be greatly missed.

Hayden and I would have the best discussions when I was in OKC. He made it my home. We didn't always agree, but in some of the things he said, he revealed he was a true friend. He often quietly had my back. I learned a lot about OKC from him. He will be missed.

Thoughts and prayers with you.. family and friends

You will be missed, have a fun and exciting journey to the other side, save me a seat when you get there.

My thoughts and prayers to your family. Our community was blessed by your presence here on earth.  May God bless your family and friends in the months and years to come.  Thank you!!

Tony, I so sorry for your loss. You and Hayden have been friends of mine for years. He will be missed by many in the LGBT Community in OKC.

Hayden, you were a gentleman, a legend and a friend. Thank you for helping me out when I needed it, chewing me out when I needed it, many laughs and many drinks. I am honored to have known you. I love you. Our thoughts are with Tony, Kevin and all of your friends and family.

OBITUARY

Hayden Compton Allen Jr.

February 15, 1943 – October 25, 2012

Hahn-Cook/Street & Draper Funeral Directors and Rose Hill Burial Park

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