Adelene R. Bay

BAY, Adelene (Ady) 93, of Kissimmee, Florida passed away Sunday, August 28, 2022 at 4:30 am in the arms of her daughter, Judy. She is survived by her only child, Judith (Judy), also of Kissimmee. She married her husband, Karl, in 1953 and he passed Nov 2010. She is also survived by sister, Joann Miller of Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania. Mom passed away just 3 days after her 93rd birthday, and the day after what would’a been Dad’s 97th birthday.

Mom was born in Turtle Creek, PA, lived in Bedford, PA then Pgh, PA and moved to Kissimmee, Florida in 1987. Initially mom was an LPN at Zoar Home and Magee Hospital both in Pgh (where she met dad) then worked in Stumpf’s market in Morningside (Pgh) for over 20 ys. Upon relocating here mom worked as a head housekeeper at Polynesian Isles Timeshare located within walking distance of their home.

As a 35 yr resident of Kissimmee, Mom will be remembered for her community involvement. In 2009, she was named the 2009 Volunteer of the Year by the Osceola Council on Aging for her 11-year commitment as Commission Ambassador for the Osceola County Board of County Commissioners and her dedication to her homeowners association. She served as its membership chairperson initially, then president of the HOA following dad’s passing. Health issues commenced in 2014 forcing her retirement from all community involvement.

Sadly health issues persisted causing mom much frustration as she always wanted to be on the go and do things. Most recently she broke (per the ER) hips, pelvis, and tailbone after which she became bedbound at the end of July. Her wish (as was Dad’s) was to die in their living room and I made that happen, caring for Mom 24/7 for the last 5 weeks of her life. It broke my heart to see her in such pain and agony as I so tried to keep her comfortable. I kept 2 promises - one made to Dad in 2010 to care for Mom, and then to Mom to care and help her ‘til the end.

Message to you, Mom:

Though we butted heads during our lives (as you often said) you were always my mom. At times I could never please you nor could others, but you still cared about others and I will always love you. I miss you so so so so much. May you rest in peace, pain free, finally being able to walk without a walker and sleep during the night with Dad up there in heaven. ‘Til I see u again, hug Dad for me and a huge one for you… I shall figure out life down here without you - it sure won’t be easy with you not here. I always asked you, “What should we do, what do you want?” …Your favorite line was, “There’s just the 2 of us,” and there was, in the your final hours on your final lap, just the two of us in your living room…Love you lots.

Arrangements entrusted to Grissom Funeral Home in Kissimmee. Burial will be private for Judy only at Glen Haven Memorial Park in Winter Park, Florida.

Fond memories and expressions of sympathy may be shared at for the Bay family in the online guest book below.

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Mom another message from me…dated 9/4/22

I wish could take back every pain and worry that you had and ones that I ever gave you. I wish that I could just undo, all the moments that made you blue and so so mad at me. I miss you mom. I am heartbroken and in agony but know u r in a better place and at peace.

It’s been such an awful week mom for me but I know for you it's been the best week you have had in over 8 yrs, maybe 12 yrs - a week u have been pain free, able to walk without help, smile, laugh, and just do whatever..I have so many regrets mom and I hope u will forgive me…but u r with daddy and so happy now and it will take awhile for me to get that…All I have known for years is taking care of you and dad and I feel so so empty, I cannot stop crying

I would not have survived yesterday without Brooke, and our entire Glen Haven family.. though I was there alone I was not..I felt your presence looking down upon me and u saw them surround me with love and compassion….. they made sure “every detail was remembered” I know u loved it- even though it wasn’t the hoopla u always wanted I hope u understand why I did what I did... It’s cause you always said “just the 2 of us” and I made sure of that.

You and I already knew the firsts are so so hard as we went thru it with daddy BUT so soon to have my birthday just the day after I laid you to rest this day is more than I can take but I will get thru it I hope. Thanks to you and daddy for giving birth to me today.

Mom you know I made the trip to Glen Haven this morning at sunrise (don’t worry Tami drove me as I am in no shape to drive) as I had to spend time with you and daddy... You knew I would come right away and just check things out and it looked just fine.

For those of you still reading I am sorry I forgot to extend a special thanks to several: Darlyne ARNP for visiting mom every 10 days without fail - mom so loved you; Kindred at Home Osceola esp Danielle LPN, Quinn and Anthony (PT) and finally our heroes: Lt Bobby Clark and his team at Osceola County Fire Rescue 42 who knew mom inside and out... mom loved them especially always asking where Bobby was if he was not in her living room when they came to the house. She was laid to rest with a station 42 blue shirt in her casket just as we did with daddy. Bobby your visit to mom in her last weeks and your phone calls mean so much to me – u have no idea.

I miss you so much already mom , but I know you’re looking down on me... Love u forever !