Jay was my friend, I shall miss him greatly as I know his family will as well.  He always made himself available to help us out with scouts when asked. I knew him through the scouting program which he was dedicated to for many years in particular the Tribe of Mic O Say. He was a proud member of the tribe and I know he enjoyed the activities and ceremonies. Beneath his gruff exterior beat a heart of gold with a willingness to help anyone when asked. We miss you my friend.

I knew Jay from the early 70’s at Universal Underwriters.  We had a great group of friends who partied together on Friday nights and also played on a Volleyball league...great memories!  Rest in peace Jay and thanks for finding me on Facebook. 😘

A friend forever.  Independence Rugby Football Club❤️❤️❤️😎

And I just found this photo of Jay - Cindy, let me know if you have this or if you'd like me to send it over.

Jay and I went to Liberty High School together (Class of '67) and were just casual acquaintances. But 11 years ago he reached out to me and we became very close. We had almost daily Facebook contacts and he loved playing trivia which we have done on a daily basis for more than 10 years! Once a friend with Jay you were friends for life! His caring and kindness toward others is what I will always remember. He liked to portray himself as a crabby old man in recent years but he had a heart of gold and people knew it.




Jay was a true friend for nearly  60 years.  Was my best bud from the time I arrived in Liberty in 1960.  We shared many an adventure in those early years and remained close to the end.  Rest in peace my dear friend,  you are missed terribly.  Until we meet again. 

I knew Jay most of my life and and I always admired his love of life, people, Mic-O-Say, rugby and yes, Guiness! Whenever I had a tribal question he had the answer. I will definitely miss him. 
Mike Moorefield  
Firebuilder Little Swift Lightning

Jay was one of the wonderful friendly people I ever met.  We got to know each other in HS in many classes.  He never new a stranger and always made an effort to speak or talk to you.  As the years passed and he came back to many of the class reunions, it was always so fun to catch up with him and his family and all his many interests!! He talked of his grandchildren...and always stilled loved Rugby.
We visited alot over FB the last few years and shared many thoughts and feelings.  He will be missed and remembered for his incredible friendliness and joy towards others!!
I will miss you my friend!! R I P!

Donna Gray Woolard class of 1966

When Jay came to Park, his mother, Winona, asked Henry to take Jay under his wing. That was the beginning of a life long bond. Jay always called Henry his brother, and like brothers, they managed to have  fun,  get in small accidents together, dust themselves off,  and continue to be united. They swam together competitively at Park , and after we were married, Jay was a part of our family. He loved his daughters deeply, and we looked forward to visits with them in later years. When he returned to Kansas City, from Boise, he introduced us to the love of his life, Cindy. We witnessed their tying the knot in Liberty. He and I loved to joke about our being Irish, as he teased Henry about his Puerto Rican heritage. He was a favorite at our Irish parties on our boat at Lake Weatherby.
It is difficult to imagine life without him, but we vow to continue our journey with Cindy...and yes, we will always continue to raise a glass to you, our dear Jay.

We made friends with Jay way back in the Lynn Insurance days in the early '70s.  As part of the 10:00 a.m. coffee break group, who would have guessed we were forming a group of 7 friends that would last for so many years.  The last time we seven were all together, we parted with the names Doc, Secretive, Sleepy, Skeptical, Grumpy, Obi-Wan, and Snow White.  

Jay, you were a friend to many, and you gave your time so freely to help other people.  And, now there are 5.  Jay, we're going to miss thee! 

With much love to you and to your family and friends. 

Snow White and Obi-Wan

I met Jay when I worked at 75th St. Brewery. I was 22 years old then. Next month I’ll be 44. I guess I’ve known him half my life. That’s a heck of a thing to realize. We bonded over Scouts and rugby. He always had a sour, cantankerous, and rather sharp wit. Some people would say that made him a (you fill in the blank); but Jay wasn’t one of those. I don’t like those type of people and I like Jay very much. No, not so hidden underneath Jay’s snapping turtle shell is a gentle, caring and loving soul. He is a good man. I’m looking forward to watching a rugby game with him in the next life. 

Well Mr Flaherty, you have moved on to another adventure. Know that you will be missed.  Always thought it was so cool all the things in your life that you loved, your daughters, Cindy, Scouting , Rugby and last but not least the friends that have passed through your wonderful life.  Terri and I are proud to have been your friends.  May the pitch be lush, you win all your put in and most of your opponents and score often and with integrity.

Love you brother

Roby and Terri Brown 
Boise

First met Jay when he and Dave Baldwin were teaching beading at SNAWS. Dave had been in my scout troop and my mom helped his mom how to bead. I quickly became friends with Jay since we were mutual friends with Bob Kalthoff. Years later at ceremony, Jay came up to me and wanted to borrow my fully cut-beaded cane to poke around in the ceremonial fire. Needless to say, I had to refuse his request--he may have even been kidding! Great craftsman and a great Tribesman. A ho Jay.

Thank you Jay for a lot of wonderful rugby watching times. I don't think we cheered on the same team very often, but we definitely cheered on the same sport!

Loads of love to Cindy and the kids through this time.

J.C. was a one of a kind. We met on Camp Sawmill Pool staff in 1966. 54 years later, we meet twice a week to watch Jeopardy and enjoy a PBR or 6. Never a dull moment with Jay. Never have I had a better friend. Your work is done, my brother. Carry on.

We will miss Jay! He made me laugh every time I'd see him at Your Classic Ride. He's one of those people that made you want to spend an extra few minutes when you'd visit because he would crack you up! I'll miss him- he was a great guy, and one of kind.

J. C. 
Always a friend always a brother. From 68 till now. Camp was always in his heart and on his mind. Spent three great summers working with him on Sawmill staff.  My life has been better knowing J. C. . Rest In Peace my brother. 

Jay and I met in 1993, of course it was at Bartle scout reservation. We would run into each other over the years at various tribal functions but it was 2011 when we really reconnected. While I was playing for the Kansas city rogues we would play the kc blues. Who was front and center, Jay!!! We would from then on greet each other as O worthy hooker!!! From time to time it would be O worthy keeper. It was great to share so many passions with Jay. I was lucky to know him for 27 years, some of you knew him for much longer. It was an honor to share some of my life with him. 

So Sorry for your loss of Jay.    
I had the joy/pleasure of being on the Independence Rugby Club and the River Quay Rugby Club with him..  They were fun times and the world will miss Jay.   

OBITUARY

James Coleman "Jay" Flaherty

February 4, 1949 – May 1, 2020

McGilley State Line Chapel

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