Dearest son,
Four years ago now and there isn’t a day that goes by that I don’t  think of you.  Your beautiful smile and contagious laugh will be missed forever!  
Continue to leave us your little signs it helps to heal our hearts! 
Til we meet again son!  
I will always love you,
Mom ♥️💔

Hi dad,
It’s taken me a lot of courage to write this & accept that you’re gone. I don’t remember you and I wish I did. I wish I could’ve gotten to know you better and had a relationship with you but I guess things happen for a reason. I see a lot of you in me now that I’ve seen more photos of you. I see the resemblance when I smile & how both are eyes shrink. I wish you could’ve been apart of my life, to see me grow into the women I am now. I’d like to think you thought about me over the years but I’m not sure if that is true. I hope it is. Even though you weren’t in my life I still loved you everyday & always had you on my mind. I will always love you no matter what. Rest in peace ❤️

3 years ago today you crossed over to the heavens!  Our lives will never be the same! I think of you all the time and sometimes think you’ll come by. But I know we will be together again ! I love you son! 💔♥️

Hi Son, look at how big your JJ Mike is getting!  He's almost as tall as grandma!  He's such a ray of sunshine! 🥰 He brings us so much joy with his gentle charming personality!  He often says things about his daddy♥️!  He misses you so much!  💔Continue to watch over him and cheer him on as he okays his trumpet!!!  🎺

Love and miss you son,
Mom ♥️😘❤️

My Ralph 💙 went to see you today I know that you were there watching me there's not a day that goes by that I dnt think of you you'll always have a peace of my heart ♥️  miss you always 💔

My dearest son,

I got a letter from One Legacy asking if we would like an update  on your recipients.  I called and requested an update.  They said they would reply in 4-6 weeks.  To my surprise they sent me an email after 2 weeks stating all 3 of your organ recipients are all doing well.  You were able to donate to 49 people who needed tissue, muscle and tendons.  Also a baby girl received some of your heart valve which has given her life.  Because of your unselfishness 2 people are able to see again.  I am so prpud of you son!
God Bless You. ♥️
I love you,
Mom 😘

Happy 42nd heavenly birthday son!  Miss you and your great sense of humor everyday!  I will keep you close in my heart forever!  Sending you all my love!  ♥️   Until we meet again son!  😘

Happy Heavenly Birthday 🎂 my Ralph you are missed everyday There's not day that goes by that I dnt think about you love and miss you always 🕊💙💐

My dearest Son,
The holidays are so hard for us.  Missing you so much.  Your baby Justin Michael is really missing  you. Uncle Artie is doing the best he can to spend time with him and go on shopping sprees to try and make him happy.  He is a really good boy.  We are all so blessed to have him in our lives!  He has so much of you in him. ♥️   The One Legacy Foundation along with Ava's Heart Foundation donated toys to Justin on your behalf this Christmas.  He was excited to get Star Wars Legos.  We will always keep your memory alive son!  
I'm sure Aunt Ree , Adrianna and Justin Ryan are in the heavens with you and your all celebrating your lives without worry or pain. Although we all miss you we find comfort in knowing the 4 of you are all together.  
Please continue to leave us signs of your spiritual presence.  
We love you.  ♥️

My Hokey,
Yesterday was an awesome day! It was cross  town rivalry day…”The Big Game,” u know the one?!! The one that had our Bruins beating USC with a score of 62-33. I know you were there watching with me..I could just hear you cheering louder than me! Lol
It was also an especially blessed day beecause someone came back into our lives. I just wished you could have been here to hug & kiss her…
Well, just wanted to share our amazing day with you & tell you that I love you & miss you so very much. 
God Bless you always, my Hokes! ❤️

Hi my Hokey…
Just finished watching our Raiders play against the Ravens..(MNF)
OH WOW! What can I say but WOW!
What an amazing game it was. A major nail biter but our Raiders came through in overtime. You would’ve gone crazy!
I’m posting a pic of us watching one of our many games together…
I know you were sitting with us watching the game tonight. 
I miss you sooo very much.
Love u always, my Hokey. ❤️
Your Aunt Debadee.

My Dearest Hokey,
It's been a year now and the pain is still so fresh!  💔. There isn't a day that goes by that I don't think of you and pray for you. We are so blessed to have your  son! He's the apple of grandma's eye!  And he is surrounded with so much love ❤️ and support!  We reflect on all  the good memories and all of your favorite lines and music. 🎼.  Your donor recipients are so grateful for your unselfishness. Because of you they have the gift of life, sight and flesh!   
Please continue to leave us your lil signs and keep watching over us. 
Until we are together again I will always  love and miss you!  
Mom. 😘

Hi my Ralph ❤ every day I miss you today Nevaeh said she thought about you when she open her window she says that's a forever thought you made a impression on all of are lives love you always 

Hi my Hokey,
It’s me again just had to let u know that our Bruins came through with the victory over Hawaii with a beat down score of 44-10!!
Can’t wait to see the game against USC.
Please continue to watch over us. I know that u do…
Love u & miss u so very, very much
Your Aunt Debadee! ❤️

Hi Hoke!
Today starts UCLA football season…
It’s half time & our Bruins are spanking Hawaii, 31-13. Can’t wait to see the ending score! 
It’s days like this when I miss you so very much.
We would bee yelling & cheering  U C L A on! 
Your high school playing field at GHS has been renovated & is so beeautiful. I think it’s inspired the football team to bee victorious & have a sense of pride! They are doing very well! Undefeated! 
I know you would’ve been proud to play football on it!
God Bless, love & miss you so very much my Hokey! 😘


My Dearest Grandson HOKEY,  Just want to say how much I miss you every day, looking down the hall Sunday at moms house looking for you.  We had so much fun celebrating JJ's tenth birthday party,  the children and Nennie had a  great time in the pool. Your cousin Brian's little two year old baby was coming down the slide into the pool, loving every minute, the little guy is fearless. Pops is sitting here watching the Dodgers, really into the game.  Well mejo I will say good night, Love you so much

My Dearest Son,
We celebrated your baby,  Justin Michaels birthday this past weekend.  The kids had such a great time.  Grandma and grandpa got a bouncer with a waterslide and the kids had a blast!!  As I was helping JJ open his gifts I was saddened because that should have been you helping him with all his gifts.   This is his first birthday without you! 😕.  They will never be the same but we will strive to make them as special as they can be.  We all do our best to be the best role models and influences in his life.  And we will always be here for him.  He's got such a loving, caring heart.  Always willing to do good things. His mama is also doing a great job!  Working hard to provide for him and his brother and sister. He's a smart 10 year old with a bright  future ahead of him.  We are blessed!
Continue to watch over him son. He will always need your guidance. 
Sending all my love,
Mom


My Dearest Hoke’s
Today is one of those hard days to get through...
Father’s Day. This is my JJ’s 1st Father’s Day without u. My heart breaks for him. I know I shouldn’t worry beecuz his Uncle Artie has stepped up & is spending time with him & doing lots of fun things with him. U would bee so proud of ur little brother...He is a great father figure. 
Our Lakers didn’t do so well. They were eliminated in the 1st round. 😕 UR Dodgers are doing so-so & as for my Angels...🤷🏼‍♀️
It’s almost Bruin football season...
Not the same without u, my fellow Bruin fan but, I know u’ll bee watching & routing them on!
We are all doing well, Aly girl is getting  so big, as is JJ. He’s almost as tall as me. Lol He measures us every time he’s over. Hahahahaha!
Thank you for watching over us all & taking care of us. U were the best dad ever!!
Happy Heavenly Father’s Day, my Hokey!
Love u & miss u so damn much!! ❤️
Always,
Ur Aunt Debadee! 😘
GO BRUINS!! 🐻


Happy Father's Day my Ralph miss you always love you 💙💙

My dearest Hokey,
Your mama has moved  on to another chapter in life!  Retirement! 33 years now so it was time to move on.  I have so many great friends! They snet me off  me a great farewell.  Albert Sanchez presented  me your high school football jersey and left me in tears!  What an awesome gift!  His video was amazing and this was icing on the cake!  You are missed dearly son and you left such a great  an impact on so many in your life time!  I departed with your jersey and a young man that you and your brothers went to St Frances with who always reminded me of Justin.  You both were with me on my special night! Thank you son! 
Sending all mamas love! 
Mom 😘

My dear Son, 
We received a letter from one of your recipients. His name is Chris and has a wife and two young daughters. He is so thankful for the gift of tissue he received from you. He said because of your selflessness he's able to take his family on hikes again and play hockey once more. He has played hockey for years until his injury and is so happy he is able to play again. He said his gratitude is immeasurable!  
Thank you son for your gift!
Love,
Mom ❤️

Hi my Ralph ❤ just want you to know that I miss you so very  much and love you always 💋 I go through my pictures and videos and just to here you laugh puts a smile on my face 💞💐

My Dearest Son,
I got some great news! I wrote to OneLegacy back in November and hadn't heard back from them. So I wrote again and got a quick response. I wrote inquiring about the recipients of your gifts. They were pleased to tell me that the man who gained your right kidney and your liver is doing really well. The woman who gained your left kidney is also doing good. Praise God and you son for gifting them with your gifts of life.  Because of your giving heart and generosity they are able to lead a normal life. 
I love you,
Mom


Hi mejo,  another holiday without you, really miss you Hokey.  You would really love our little Ally, she is a beautiful little girl  and real smart, she goes and goes and has a lot of fun and we with her.  We all say she is a lot like your mom, busy, Dave calls here Ally Lyn, lol.  well mejo I’ll say good night for today, love you so much

My Hokey,
Yesterday’s UCLA v Gonzaga “Final Four” game was definitely a “barn burner!” Although, our Bruins were unable to pull it through, they fought hard & gave Gonzaga a run for their money. Next season UCLA will bee a team  to bee reckoned with, for sure.
I miss u even more during these, oh so exciting games & especially today as we celebrate Easter without ur beeautiful smile & ur happy laughter...😞 It’ll never bee the same.
I miss & love u so very, very much.
Ur Aunt Debadee ❤️
GO BRUINS! 🐻

My Dearest Son,
Today will be a tough day for us celebrating NaN and Pops 63 wedding anniversary  and Nans 81st birthday without you. All family functions are so hard for us.  Miss your laughter and your great sense of humor.  We are blessed to have your son JJ Mike with us today.  He spends lots of time at grandma and grandpas house. 😘.  Praying that you continue to watch over us son.  And that you are at peace with your Aunt Ree and your brother Geeg. 
Sending all my love son,
Mom ❤️

My Ralph, miss you every day ❤❤ love you always 

My Ralph, today is hard I miss your voice I watched one of your videos I have of you singing Happy heavenly valentines 💙🤗💕 love you always 💖

Hey,my Ralph today every song that came on reminded me of you I miss you so much love you & miss you  always 💋

Happy Heavenly 🐝day, my Hokey!
Today Artie & I went to visit with you. It was a chilly, cloudy day but a beeautiful one. I know you’ll  love the “#1 UCLA FAN,” sticker that I left for you. I was really missing you this weekend when I was watching the UCLA v Stanford basketball game. It was a nail biter but unfortunately Stanford won by 1 pt in o/t! 😕 
We got to spend some awesome time with JJ today. He was showing us his Pokémon cards & showed us the ones that you got for him...he said that he would never trade them. He’s such a loving, amazing little boy. We are all so proud of him as we know you would bee.
Well, this pandemic is getting really old & I’m so over it! Lol
I love u & miss you so very much!
Your Aunt Debadee. ❤️


Happy heavenly birthday Son, 🎈
We miss you so much!  We are doing
Our best to live one day at a time!  We all have our struggles.  Good days and bad days. We are blessed to have your son with us us a lot.  He’s such a ray of sunshine! 😘  He talks about you often and it makes us happy.  We  have many fond memories to reflect upon forever!  You will always be in our hearts!  We love you! ❤️
Mom


My Ralph 💙 ooh how i miss you very day,I went to see your mom today and it brought back so many memories especially our sec date I felt like a teenager sneaking in and out the house lol  you made me feel so loved ❤ you will always be in my heart and my  every day thoughs..💋 IOVE YOU ALWAYS 

My dearest Son,
Our holidays will never be the same but we made the most of it for your Champ and Aly Girl!  They had lots of toys and goodies. Champ got a bear from Rennie with recordings of you talking to him when he was a baby!  Thech made us all a beautiful pic with you, Aunt Ree and Justin. Absolutely beautiful!  Words cannot describe how I feel inside son. I miss you so much. I cry and feel a bit better.  Take care of you brother, sister and your Aunt in the heavens son!  
Until we meet again,
Mom


Son,

Our Thanksgiving day was just not
the same without you this year.  Their was definitely a void but we all made the best of it. Pops wasn’t feeling his best. He’s hasn’t been himself for a few days now. Hopefully he’ll be better soon.  JJ was home with his mommy and siblings this year.  JJ got a super short hair cut.  Said he wanted it to look like his daddy.  We are grateful he’s talking about you and reminiscing the songs you used to sing together.  Jamie sent me a gift of candles with your pic on them.  So nice!  JJ wanted one of his own to light on your birthday. He’s such a good boy. We love him so much! ❤️
We love and miss you son.
Mom


Hi Mejo,
Nana & Pops miss u so much. When we are at your mom’s house, I keep thinking that you’ll come walking down the hallway with your big, beautiful smile & light up the room or sneaking out the back door for a smoke. You always had a big hug for Nana. Life for Pops & I will never be the same Mejo, since you were called home.
Mejo, next Wednesday it will be 17 years that we lost your brother, Justin Ryan, somedays it seems like just yesterday. You, your sister Adriana, Aunt Ree & Justin Ryan will forever be in our hearts. We love you so much. ❤️

My Hokey,
Two months have already passed since you were called home to bee with our Lord. I can't even beegin to tell  you how so very much I miss your beeautiful smile, your dancing eyes & your contagious laughter, but most of all your amazing hugs & your "I love you. Aunt Debadee!" I find comfort in knowing that you are at peace & resting.
Yesterday, your Mama, Nana, Pops, Artie,  & I watched your high school football highlights. You were one awesome player....
You shined!  We were also able to see your brother, Justin in the video. You were both so young. We cried & we laughed. We were so proud of you. We are so blessed to have these memories to reminisce the good times.
I dont't look forward to the holidays. They beecame hard to celebrate after we lost Justin. Now, they will bee unbearable. I will go throgh the motions for my Aly Girl. Every time we say her name we will remember that it was you that named her, "Aly Girl."
She will know you through our memories & your son, Justin, will never forget you.
Your Mama is missing you like crazy.! I feel so helpless that all I can do is comfort her. I am so grateful that she has your "Champ," Justin to keep her going. I only wish that I could have done more for you while you were here with us..Just bee sure that I will love you for eternity & I will miss you every minute of everyday.
Love Your Aunt Debadee<3
P. S. It's Bruin football season...I know you'll bee watching!
GO BRUINS!!  

Son,
It’s been 2 months now since your accident and I miss you so much!  Your text messages just to say ‘hi mama’ what are you doing’  or ‘I miss you’.  I’ll never see those again. My heart is broken and will never heal. Two holes now that will never mend!  But I have to stay strong.  I am blessed to have a part of you still here on earth. You son is such a ray of sunshine!  We will always keep your memory alive son. I promise you!  
Until we are together again son know I will always love you,
Mom


Ralph, you were one heck of guy!!
You are going to missed by many people, especially Bruin Fans.
May you rest peacefully my brother, until we meet again.

My wife and I met Ralph a few years back and became friends. We enjoyed off-roading together. He was such a great guy and was full of life and happiness. We will miss his smile and laughter. Our thoughts are with your family. Rest in peace Ralph. <3

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Ralph Melendrez Martinez

January 25, 1980 – September 11, 2020

Oakdale Mortuary & Memorial Park

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