"Grief, I've learned, is really just love. It's all the love you want to give, but cannot. All of that unspent love gathers in the corners of your eyes, the lump in your throat, and in the hollow part of your chest. Grief is just love with no place to go."
Frederick L Dyer
Frederick Dyer, age 84 of Clayton, passed away peacefully on June 28th, 2024 surrounded by family.
After months of fighting, I have finally won my battle and now sit at the feet of Jesus, my Lord and Savior! I have been blessed to live my final years with my caregivers, my only son Fred and his wife Liz, who took fantastic care of me and always did their very best. My oldest daughter, Shirley and her husband Brian who live in East Tennessee would make the trek over the mountain to visit when they were able. My youngest daughter Kathy-Jo lives very close to me and was a constant presence at home. I am joining my loving wife Mary, who I have been married to 65 years June 27th, to celebrate our anniversary. I leave on earth my children, Fred and his wife Liz. Shirley and her Husband Brian Ketchum and my daughter Kathy Jo Houck. All of my grandchildren, Dominic Houck, Kirsten Houck, Brady Ketchum, Cole Ketchum and Emma Ketchum, and my great granddaughter Emma, great grandson Kaenon and the rest of my family.
Death at 84 years, looking back at all of the lessons I could pass along in this journey, it has taught me that your plans and God's plans very rarely go together. So, remember when you're making your plans, they really are just indefinite. Focus on loving and let go of hate. When is the last time you really let your family and friends know you appreciate them and invested your time in them, telling them you love them? Your life would look a lot different without them in it. If you still have your spouse with you spend time with them. Imagine sitting in the shoes of my children and grandchildren who wishes they had just a bit more time with their father, grandfather. If they had only known the last time would be the last time, they would have put off all the things they had to do. Spend time with your kids. Put your phone down, pause your work, and give them a hug. Tell them how proud you are of them. Love all over them and invest in quality time with them. Go out regularly, see and experience things and sites with them. Explore……They need you. It’s not impossible to leave a legacy but more important that people see and come to know Christ through your words and actions. Most of all, I encourage you to find Christ. Without Him I am nothing. If you're reading this, there's at least one seat open at a Church near you, just for you. It was my favorite place to be with my family. To all my friends and family, thank you. I hope to see you again! With all my love, Frederick
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