Almost 6 years mom, sometimes it seems like it’s been 100 years since you’ve been gone, so many things I wish I could talk to you about. I have four grandkids now, they’re all growing like weeds.I will love you forever

Hi Mom,
I just watched the video, its the first time I could since 2015.  It's really good, I love all of the pics and think you would too.  I was thinking about you because I had one of those evenings that you were the best person to call!  Don't get me wrong, not sad, just made me think about how lucky I am for the conversations we had because you were the best person to call!  I love you and miss you!  I'm sure you know everything that's going on as always, even when you act like you don't!  Scrunches....Cathi


I love and miss you so much Mom!  I guess I don't talk to you as much as I did at first and that is probably normal right? You know how often I think of you I am sure.  I think you would love Ricky Blaze, I sort of wonder if you led him to us knowing how we felt about Maxx and Odie and he is so much like both of them, also Bob always says I have a special bond with Ricky which is the same thing he used to say about me and you.  I thought about you during the Christmas star, you would have been excited BUT I'm  glad you and dad did not have to do the 2020 leading up to it in any way. I love and miss you so much, it still hurts sometimes and other times im so glad you did not have to see 2020.  Merry Christmas Mom, give Dad a hug!

Hey Mom,
We had a fun Christmas and thought about you!  I miss you and love you, I'd give everything I have for a 5 minute conversation with you....still!  I'm grateful for the extra time with Tammy & Cindy!!   It makes the loss of you so much easier and is no doubt your doing! Still, just a few minutes with you and "scrunches"....I'd give anything, I miss you that much!! Love you Mom

Hi Mom,
I am sorry it's been so long  you know why.  I miss you, and gosh I wish you were here, selfishly for sure but I feel like you could make me feel better.  You know about Maxx and Odie, Bob picked up their ashes and paw prints today.  I feel so sad and lost, I miss them so much.  I would give anything to talk to you Mom. I know you understood it.  And I know you helped me go past the new Houston thing, you were right all the way, sometimes all the loss seems too much and other times all the gain seems more than I am worth.  With the dogs I am so confused in spite of what the vet said or anyone else, maybe because of Bob, gosh I just want 1 more minute or 5 or 6 hours or 11 hours, we must have set a mom and daughter record at some point, and I am grateful for every second of it, I miss you and love you so much Mom...need some scrunches, love you, Cathi

It’s been three years now, I really have missed you. I wish things were different here,  some things now are beyond our control , a lot has happened with us all.  Wish you were here to help us sort it out.  I love you as always, my heart hurts, and I can’t fix it.

Hey Mom, I can't sleep!! I think it's because of everything I have going on and all I wish I could talk to you about. I suppose everyone thinks after someone is gone about what they wish they would have talked about, I can only think of one thing and I never think about it, I always want to talk about the new stuff lol!! Sooo...as always since you are gone, I will talk here, it's probably dumb to others but it helps me, and I wish I could hear your voice, and what's new with you! For me the new AP chic is so smart, it's a relief since first interview I was part of here! My new office on main floor with corner windows is almost done, it is next to bathroom and has a sink for my Bunn coffee pot and they let me order the office furniture I wanted, I know you would have wanted pics! I have a giant project list that scares the crap out of me, but also know I am now being groomed for Jo's job, well was asked if I wanted it and those are big shoes to fill as you know. We got a matching simple IRA on Jan 1 and you would be proud since you harassed and scolded me in the past about not doing that...I am now, I tap ked to Cindy and Donnie and got good advice, and the house is so cool!! Bob handmade a produce bin and a holder for the big weird soap we love from Sam's!  It pretty much the best gift I ever had, way better and smarter than I had in my head and cuter! And will be custom. My health news is odd, I kind of just stopped taking allergy meds and my allergies are better but I feel mentally foggier and having a lot of joint trouble especially in my hands and I don't know if it's related, because it seems different to me?? I am tempted to stick it out and get off any meds including OTC just to see what happens lol...Bob is pretty good better most days since doc changed his meds and I can figure out from his behavior and stuff now if his sugar is low or high and that makes things SO much easier!! Max is mostly OK but his back legs are giving out, yet he still wants Bob to walk him, which I see as good because dogs are like people use it or lose it!! Odie is struggling pretty bad but he is so sweet, I suspect we are getting to end of days with him because of things he is doing, I am trying not to melt down over it, easier said than done, Oh that brings me back to something so cool Mom! Bob bought step stools to our bed and couch but they were small and narrow and Max and Odie would not use them, then he built stairs and put carpet on top and handles on side so we could move them to clean, the carpet was left over from remodel of house...anyway, both dogs immediately used both sets of stairs with no help and have ever since!! I choked back tears....they were smiling, both dogs, you should have seen them smile! They are as sweet as you remember and then some! I miss you can you tell?? Lol But I am sure you are here, all around me and it comforts me, your stuff and pic, you picked some good decor and it's all over my house but mostly your are just with me in every thought, I am fortunate, I feel lucky...I miss you and love you Mom...scrunches!!! I Wouldn't Trade You For The World...either!

Hi Mom, I sure miss you, there is so much going on all the time & I want to run every bit of it by you!  I suppose you know I'd give everything for a few minutes with you but I can't help saying it here. Nothing is the same without you, I'm glad I got to tell you that you were my best friend and mean it, it makes me feeling lucky 90 percent of the time and lonely the other 10 percent.  I just hope you and Dad have PEACE up there together, and are happy! I love you and miss you so much it hurts but I'm doing OK, I'm doing what you would want me to!  Scrunch with you tonight!  Love, Cathi

Hi Mom! As always I miss you so much! A lot of times I'll admit it's because I need to talk to you, but lately, it's because I miss hearing what YOU have to say, because I got more out of it than I realized then.  I guess the holiday's will always be tough without you, maybe it will get easier, but I am not so sure. I like having all these things that are you around the house, but I sure would rather be able to have you visit. I'd love to laugh with you about the french chic & the chalk board and all that stuff, you would have really laughed with me over it.  I guess you know Halloween was super cool & fun for us for our first one in the house. I need to bring more holiday stuff back in to my life, like you did, I'm going to work on that. Leeann may spend Thanksgiving with me and Bob this year.  It seems all 3 of us don't really have a place to go, so it seems like a good idea, hey maybe it could be a new tradition.  I hope her new baby girl puppy Mercedes can tolerate Odie & he her, I'm sure her and Max will get along just fine.  When we talk about Grandma and Grandpa the pups still recognize the words, and I think that's cool!! I miss you Mom, and I guess everything else I said is just talk, I'm writing because I miss you so much.  I love you & will talk to you in my prayers and dreams, night scrunches, & don't let the bed bugs bite!

Hi Mom! I miss you so much!  Gosh you would laugh right now because I'd give anything to run a decorating idea by you!!...for everything you did or did not do at the end of the day, I'm so lucky, so grateful that we threw everything aside and decided to talk like best friends.  I wish I was a smart as you, I'm not, your potential was unrealized.  All I can do and have been trying to do is everything you told me, and it seems to be working cross your fingers!  Nothing could replace seeing you, hugging you, smelling you one more time, much less just 5 minutes to talk.  I still feel you a lot, all around me, it's odd because I never believed that stuff, I'm still struggling with it but I suppose you know when to do it and after all this time I don't second guess or question it, I'm just grateful, always seems to be the right time when I need you, which probably means in my head, but it sure don't feel like it. You are never lost to me, and always the voice of reason in my head even if I still argue that sometimes...you used to say lol "I would expect nothing less", and laugh, I miss that laugh, I love you Mom!

I love you Mom, and every day I want to talk to you. Thank you for everything, I meant it when I said you were my best friend, noone on earth compares to you for me, for the rest of my life I will be grateful to you.

Hi Mom, I'm sorry it's been so long, I mean in writing.  Here.  I love it that I know you have something to do with the cactus...I just know you have a hand in that!  I know you had a hand in the memorial, you were there, I was surrounded by everyone I love, but it was you that I felt, I don't know if someone was wearing your perfume but I could smell you...it wasn't me, I only wore it at Christmas.  I was too scared to admit it.  When Cindy gave me your rings, it was more than I could take, sorry, the combination was too much. Not in a bad way, but you know, hate not to keep it together.   I miss Dad, and like how I wanted to talk to him about you, I want to talk to you about him...and I know that's why you have been here. I love you mom and I miss you so much...I am so happy you are together again, it's above and beyond how I miss y'all and I know that now...now you can do everything you hoped for together!! Night Mom...I love you and miss you!

mom i miss you so much, little things sometimes are taken for granted, this is me and mike s 1st birthday without a card from you and dad i will miss it. i had such a vivid dream last night that i just wished it hadnt ended. miss and love you see you in heaven!!!

Hi mom...for some reason my last message isn't on here but I imagine you heard me anyway.  Tonight I wish I could talk to you about the Terri and work thing...because it's the sort of thing we hashed out together...honestly.  I suspect you know what's going on and in my heart and who has gotten in to my head about it and why...and so far no bad signs...I was impressed that dad knew of her and gave an opinion which I feel really came from you...but I realized since I had already talked with you about her so long ago that I was sad not to be able to tell you this. I want it to be good for everyone and I sort of hope you will give me a sign...in the same way you used to tell me some small thing that sometimes swayed me one way or the other...also..I just miss you and your birthday coming up is hard to think about without feeling you with me...I know I can't see you physically anymore but I know that you know what I mean.  You are always in my head and my heart and I know you know that! I love you Mom...miss you terribly...but know you are with everyone you loved that left before you!!

Hi Mom,
I talked to Dad forever.  I am having a hard time with the holidays.  All of the kids seem to be gathering like you would want.  Bob's dad is 90...I am supposed to be there...Dad says I should be...I keep  feeling like I should be with Dad and my brothers and sisters and you are the only one who talked to me about that stuff...I need a sign like the others...Dad said I should be there with Bob's dad at 90 but I am worried about Dad..please give me a sign like you did before...I feel lucky I got it with you so I understand if you can't do it again...but I have to ask and thank you for the winter coronation dress :-)...it was as important to me as you and I know you got crap about the Jordache jeans...thank you...knowing you I bet you have no idea how missed you are...you would be suprised I am not at all!! )I miss you more than words can say but I know you know that! There are no words for how much I love you and always will...but there are memories and forgiveness and kindness.  We became best friends and we knew it...anyone would have been lucky to know you Mom...if they ever talked to you...I pray every night they know that...there is noone like the real you...just you..I am lucky I met you!!  Love you and miss you!!

Hi Mom,
I dreamt about you last night. And thought about you all day.  Do you remember that Christmas that was either my Jr or Sr year when you bought me clothes and had Conecentra jewelry to go with them? I remember you were so worried I wouldn't like what you picked and I could take them back and your suprise that I loved them all and I did...and I remember wondering how you knew what to get and what jewelry would go with them.  You were so suprised when I was so excited to wear everything when I went back to school after Christmas break. It was the most thoughtful Christmas I thought and one I would never forget.  Then I had that terribly lonely one in a bad year where you got me the most awesome robe..a foot spa and a butane lighter and what had mattered to me was watching you and dad that morning and wanting to make better choices with the people in my life and I had Bob by the next year.  I suspect everyone's holidays will be hard this year. And I was dreading it until I felt like you gave me some much needed memories...spawned by that dream.  It's amazing how you touch me now and I am lucky that we also talked about these things when you were here.  I may get sad this year but I will forever be grateful for where we were before you passed.  I am still struggling with not having you here but I am lucky to be so peaceful with what we had.  I love you and I miss you and I pray you are watching over Dad.

i told dad about a dream i had about mom she was so healthy and working on a metal lunchbox, putting me middle nane on it.I asked her how this was possible she said i dont know honey it was so vivid, I didnt want it to end.I had a bad pain day yesterday and i so wanted my mom i miss her so much love those you have now you never know when they will be gone love you, mom

I can't believe how much I miss our long talks...it was one of the things we always did when I had a long weekend for sure and a lot of times in between...but today I realized I always talked to you for hours on the first day of a long weekend and now I can't...I miss you and love you mom...I'm so proud of Karen...I knew she would pass and I'm so happy for her...can you visit me again in my dreams if you want to? If you can I could use that soon even though it scared me before..I miss it...a hug would be better but I am not sure that works...just to see you...I'd give anything mom...you had no idea your impact on any of us and that made you more special...love you and miss you!

mom, i know that you would be proud of me for passing my test, when i stayed over at the hospital i told you that i needed to study and you  said(HONEY DO WHATEVER YOU NEED TO DO FOR YOUR JOB) i did it for you momma i wish  you were still here but, your with JESUS now.

hi. mom its karen i miss you anytime I show anyone a picture of you . they say that I am looking more like you everyday   that is funny because for years i didnt think so im like cathy i dont know how to help dad but. GOD does, i know you cant read this or it would not be heaven but, its good to get these feelings out. im angry that GOD took you away from us but,also happy that you not in any pain anymore         i love you and will always miss you

Hi Mom...I miss you.  I found a song  that sounded like I feel and Big Kathy sent me a story that was exactly like  I feel...I imagine it's odd but I'm grieving in my own way.  Dad will be here soon and we are all anxious for it...it makes me so sad that you did not make it here but I've realized over the last few days that I believe you are here and seeing it like you wanted to.  Everything about you is inside of me and all around me so you must be experiencing this awesome place with me.  You would have fell in love with it like I have.  Twice now someone secretly left tomatoes on our patio for us and twice now a neighbor with a garden brought is tomatoes cucumbers and butter but squash.  You don't have to worry anymore like you did when we were in Houston and that gives me peace.  I am so proud every week of all of the kids for everything everyone is doing for Dad and accomplishing it makes me sad because I wish you were here to see it and that we had all made more effort before but you would be so proud!  I don't know how to help Dad like he needs because I can't imagine being in his shoes but we are talking a lot and it's helping us both.  I think Dad is going to give me your Chanel #5. Remember how I snuck it that one time and you knew it and should have been mad because it's so expensive you saved it for special occasions but I wore it to pom pon camp! Well I just want to smell it but I think I am going to only use it on dates that meant something to me and you...though I am afraid I will be smelling it every day because I miss it and it won't be the same if it's not on you.  I love you Mom and I still miss you terribly but I know you are in heaven Watching over all of us.  Send Dad some good night's of sleep Mom...he needs it and I'll do everything I can to make him feel better while he is here.  LOVE YOU....night!

Hey Mom...I think you were in labor with me 45 years ago about now.  I just put I wouldn't trade your for the world on facebook..didn't say why but just that I was glad I am yours and dads.  It's a weird birthday for me...but I wanted to tell you something.  You know how you always sent me a card? Noone else sends cards but you were great at it!! Dawn sent me a card with pics of us in high school...you would love them now though you'd have hated them back then...but I think you and I both know there's a reason why this is the first time she sent me a card...it made my day...and she is feigning ignorance like she didn't know..cuz that's her...but she knew what she was doing and I am so grateful.  Cindy sounded happy tonight though I know she misses you terribly.  I felt good that she sounded good...and Mike sounded good the other night too.  My boss Jo who wanted to meet you and you her took me to lunch for my birthday.    And Bob has given me the most amazing birthday week.  You would be proud of everyone...even Dad who not only let me ramble on about a presentation I am writing that will happen in Italy but he asked questions and seemed interested!! Isn't that cool?  I can't decide yet if I am ok...but I can say I am loved and lucky and that I am doing my best to get thru this without any drama..remorse...or worse like you would want...I miss you so much Mom that I can't explain it...I love you and I can't wait to see you again and talk to you again!....Night Mom..I love you...

I don't know how to describe this loss to anyone.  There aren't words.  No matter who I talk to I'm not saying it all...all I feel the sadness the anger the emotions.  I get as close as I can with Dawn because she is dragging it out of me in ways only someone who knew you more than 30 years can...but I guess there were some things that I only did with you. I am lucky that you gave me my sisters and brothers and lucky to have dad but I bet you never guessed what I would do to have another 6 hour phone call with you or another weekend where we stayed up too late and had brunch eggs in the morning.  I am glad I told you what those things meant to me but in your heart you always thought I was just being nice when I was truly just being honest.  I am sorry I wasn't perfect and I love you for loving me anyway.  I will always miss "our summer" where you let me just cook you stuff because I wanted to and you were curious to see what I would do. And your Channel #5...I am not sure ai ever told you but from a mile away and on a stranger it yanks my heart strings..and the boys think about that summer when grandma babysat them. I have so many other things but there is a text limit probably and now that I can always talk to you I should save some....I miss you..my heart is breaking..I love you...and I would give anything to have you back except you suffering...Love you Mom...xoxoxo

I miss you so much mom and even more so when I hear the heartbreak that dad is going through too. We are all doing our part to help him and take care of him and each other too. When your cactus bloomed right after I got it home I knew you were here watching out for all of us and sending your own message that you are home.  I know that I will be reminded of that always when it blooms again. I love you mom and I wish that I had expressed that to you more often and with harder hugs. I hope you hear me when I speak to you now.  I love you so much and wish we'd had more time.  Some day I will meet you too. Until then mom, rest in the peace of your mother's arms.

Hi Mom..since I can only write til tomorrow I wanted to say something . I thought by now I could say I'm fine but I won't lie I miss you terribly..more than I could have imagined...but that's only because of how you were always there for me unconditionally and it makes me want to be better and more understanding and forgiving to everyone.  I always knew how much you loved me and I think you knew at least in recent years how much I loved you and that gives me peace.  I will do my best to take care of dad and be there for everyone else though I doubt they rely on the "baby"..but I want you to have the peace you deserve...I love you and feel like I lost a huge part of myself when you left but I will do my best to make you proud.

i read the note you wrote to mom cathy, it was very meaningful to me mom told when she was in the hospital to do whatever it takes for your job. Everyone pray that i will pass my test., this is for you MOM!!!

I miss you so much today, I know that you are no longer in pain or miserable. I miss ours talks and stories we shared, Thank you, without you, there wouldn't be a " me "

Tonight someone played " the love boat" theme on the jukebox. Gave me a tear! In the 70's, whenever we went over to her place, she was watching THE LOVE BOAT,  or THE WALTONS!.

    My sincere and deepest condolences to all those who knew and loved Mrs. Hayes. 
   She was a joy to know and was such a wonderful friend during my teenage years. She was one of the most sincere, forgiving and loving people I have ever had the privilege to know.   
   God bless you Mrs. Hayes for you have blessed us all. Rest in peace.

Mom...I am sure I was dreaming but I saw you in a chair in my hotel room this week like you were right there.  Then Cindy sent me a picture of your cactus with a bloom and I looked at your Christmas cactus that I have and it is thriving. It feels like you are everywhere around me and in even in my decision making.  But I want to call you and talk to you so bad it hurts.  Then I am amazed because I am talking to Dad so much...you would be so proud of him...he said the other day that I could call him any time day or night about anything.  I cried because that is what you always said and meant it.  Bob is hurting more than I expected...I knew you were close...but am impressed by the impact you had on him...he misses you too and has been working on things to cook for dad when he visits...he likes to feed people like Dad liked to feed you.  I got 2 80%'s instead of hundreds on recent tests..have a final this week and already started another class to keep busy...you always liked to hear about that stuff and gave me confidence...so I am saying it here.  Dad has made a deposit and is messing with bills and asking for help and calling people and everything...again you would be so proud.  I don't want to lie and say I'm ok...the truth is I am keeping busy then it hits me an I'm distraught and angry and sad...but last time it happened was when I thought I saw you in that chair..I am sure I was dreaming.  I miss you so much my heart is breaking but I think this brought me closer to Dad and other family and that would make you proud.  I know you are still taking care of us all and I can't wait to see you again.  I love you and I miss you...please stay with me even if it is just dreams.

I love you mom, I wish I could see you again, I know I will some day. Wait for me

ITS BEEN SO HARD TO GO ONE WITH EVERYDAY LIFE AND KNOW THAT YOU WONT BE THERE WHEN I VISIT DAD I MISS YOU BUT. WE TOLD EACH OTHER HOW MUCH WE LOVE EACH OTHER I HAVE CRIED SO MUCH THIS WEEK LOVE YOU. SEE YOU IN HEAVEN.

Mom gave this to me years ago...

This is a very special gift
That you can never see
The reason it's so special is
It's just for you from me.

Whenever you are lonely
Or even feeling blue
You only have to hold this gift
And know I think of you.

You never can unwrap it
Please leave the ribbon tied
Just hold the box close to your heart
It's filled with love inside.

I went to get our cooler over at dad's yesterday; (good reason just to go see him). Told him about my watching TV, and that I thought about calling mom; see how she was doing. Dang, I thought what am I thinking? She's already gone. Dad said yea, hher woke up; thinking mom said something to him. What? Then he like me remembered she's gone. Well, dad I said; maybe she was talking to you. He teared up, bout how he missed her so much. We all miss you. Mom.wish I could see the look on your face; when you saw your mom; in heaven. Then, the look when Christ said to you,"well done; good and faithful servant! "

Went to pick up my cooler today, (good reason), to go see dad. Told him how watching TV, thought about  calling mom to see how she was, then "dang, she's already gone, what am I thinking?" Dad said, "I know, woke up thought, mom said something to wake me". Then remembered she's gone". Maybe she did, dad. Maybe she did......love you mom, sure miss you, but glad we know where you are. Wish I could see the look on your face; seeing your mom, then, " well done, good and faithful servant. " (from Christ).

I will love and miss mom for the rest of my life. I am glad now that I was with her until the end. I love you very much

Mom, I've only just returned home and what I want more than anything right now is to call you and tell you how much I'm hurting. You were always the comfort I needed when  there was pain.  Today is no different except that now you are in a better place and I feel comfort in that. You said in your last moments that you just wanted to see your mother in heaven.  I'm sure you're with her now and you finally have what was taken from you. I will also say one day that I just want to see my mom again. Until then, I will speak to you in my prayers.  I will always see you in the light of the beautiful fireworks and say, "that's for my mom", she was bright and beautiful in every way. I love you mom, listen for my whispers at night...

Miss you, mom. Watching TV, popped in my head to give you a call.

I WILL MISS YOU MOM FOREVER BUT, I KNOW I WILLSEE YOU AGAIN!!

Fly high Grandma and watch over us. Im glad we talked before you left us. You always worried about me more than yourself. I love you and am glad you are at peace. I promise to do what we talked about. I love you grandma.

Praying for your family! Sending lots of love and hoping your memories of this wonderful woman shine God's light & hope into your grieving hearts.

I miss you so much it hurts...I wish I could have done the breathing for you...I would give anything to have you back.  But I am glad you are not suffering and I know you are in heaven watching out for all of us who miss you.  I love you Mom.

Thank you for accepting me in your family the last 44 years and caring for me like your own. All our talks. Fly high and know we will take care of dad.I will always remember my husband holding your hand and singing to you.it brought joy to my heart and tears to my eyes. Love you

Your light will shine on through memories and love from your family. Rest in peace and dignity.

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Faye Finney Hayes

April 24, 1937 – July 4, 2015

Heiligtag-Lang-Fendler Funeral Home

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