Toodie was born in Mexico, Missouri on November 7, 1938 to Robert Stafford Green and Susan Keays Green.
She attended elementary and middle school in Mexico, MO before spending four years at The Westover School in Middlebury, CT. After graduation from Connecticut College with a B.A., she worked in San Francisco for several years before relocating to New York City to work in the Missouri Pavilion for the 1964/65 World’s Fair. A resident of Connecticut since 1966, she lived first in New Milford, then Hartford, Lyme, and eventually settling in Old Lyme where she has made her home for over 40 years.
Toodie was an avid cook and loved to entertain. She was a talented artist and an accomplished calligrapher. She loved her homes, and extensively remodeled five houses over the last forty-six years.
A dedicated volunteer, she was an active member of The Colonial Dames and the Old Lyme Historical society, The Lyme Academy of Fine Arts Volunteer Committee and The Child and Family Agency. She was a founding member of the Old Lyme Women’s Exchange. Her most recent project was the creation of a wildly successful cookbook titled "The Dames Dish it Up" that served as a fundraiser for The Webb Deane Stevens museum in Wethersfield.
Toodie's heritage included farmland in Elkhart, Illinois where she was a frequent visitor. She loved the land, the farmers, and the business of farming. 22 years ago she became a founding partner of the Elkhart Grain Company which was formed to purchase the local grain elevator. She was proud to be part of a talented team that has overseen the extraordinary growth and success of this enterprise which provides a vital service to the local farmer.
Toodie was a great Mom, the best one could ever hope for. Her children and grand-children always came first, her blessings and boundless love for them was unequivocal. It has been said: “in those they have blessed, they live life again” and so she is with us even now.
She is survived by her son Robert Stafford Green Cashman of Old Lyme, her daughter and son in law Johanna Cashman Calcagni and Steven John Calcagni of Cheshire, two grandchildren, Keays Gillett Calcagni and John Douglas Calcagni of Cheshire, her sisters Elizabeth Green McCutcheon of Greenwich, New Jersey and Nancy Green White of Denver, Colorado and former husband Peter Lenihan Cashman of Milford. She was pre-deceased by former husband Richard Lindsay Foote.
A memorial service is planed for Friday, May 9th, 2014 at 2:00pm the First Congregational Church of Old Lyme. Fulton-Theroux Funeral Home, Old Lyme is handling the arrangements. Please visit www.fultontherouxoldlyme.com for photos, tributes, directions and more service information.
The family requests not sending flowers. If you feel compelled to do
something, please make a donation to the charity of your choice,
whether a favorite of Toodies or otherwise.
Toodie's Favorites, in no order of preference were:
Old Lyme Historical Society http://www.oldlymehistoricalsociety.org
Colonial Dames in Connecticut http://nscda-ct.org
The Westover School http://www.westoverschool.org
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