Mary Haughey

Mary Emilia Haughey, (nee Ingargiola), of Lindenhurst and Copiague, was called h ome by the Lord Jesus on November 4, 2016, to join her cherished husband, Walter; her parents, Olga and Rosario Ingargiola and her only brother, Frank, who all predeceased her. She leaves behind her children, Thomas Bartsch, Theresa (Frank) Kohlwiess, Kenneth Paul (Brenda) Bartsch, Mary Elizabeth Bartsch, and Allison Bartsch, and Christopher Blaise Bartsch, stillborn on November 224, 1962. She was the proud grandmother of Maatthew and Kevin Kohlwiess, Keith (Bernadette) and Peter Bartsch, Blaze and Storm Bissar, and Jillian, Amanda and Christina Smigovsky. She is also survived by her former husband, Kenneth Bartsch of Ponce Inlet, Florida. Survivors include her devoted sister-in-law, Millie Ingargiola, nieces Nancy Hauck and Diane (Murray) Palmer and Frank Ingargiola, Jr. Also surviving are her grandnephews, Michael Bryan (Noni) and Adam Hauck; grandnieces, Amanda (Adam) Grantier and Alison Palmer; great-grandnephew, Michael Hauck, Jr. and great-grandnieces, Kayla Hauck and Ellie Hauck; her great-granddaughters, Grace Ann and Moira Elizabeth Bartsch.

Mary was employed by Ludemann Electric Inc. of Freeport, New York for twenty-one years as Office Manager and Comptroller until her retirement in June of 1996.

Her life is characterized by her desire to help others. During the course of her lifetime, she was tireless worker for school, church and community. She was Education Chairman of the Southwest Nassau Division of the American Cancer Society for seven years. She was active in the PTA of Harold D. Fayette School, formerly North School in North Merrick, for thirteen years, culminating in the Presidency of the PTA, receiving the honor of a Life Membership in the PTA. She was involved with several Roman Catholic churches - Sacred Heart in North Merrick, St. Mary of the Isle in Long Beach, Our Lady of the Assumption in Copiague and St. Martin of Tours in Amityville. Mary was a Lector since 1975, a Minister of the Eucharist since 1988, and a lifelong member of the Rosary Society. While in Long Beach, with her husband, Walter, she ministered to the sick and elderly patients in the Long Beach Memorial Hospital, bringing them the Eucharist and loving concern of the Church.

Upon her divorce in 1981, she joined Divorced and Separated Catholics, Westbury Chapter. There she moderated Self Awareness groups for ten years helping men and women who were facing the trauma of separation and divorce.

When her husband passed away on December 26, 2003, she joined a Bereavement group and shared her home monthly with eight men and women who were in the grieving process. In her later years, she became a Trustee of the Copiague Memorial Public Library.

Mary was a prolific writer of prose and poetry all of her life, having had her first poem published in the long defunct BROOKLYN EAGLE at the age of seven in 1938. She attended Brooklyn College in her youth, and at Nassau Community College for twenty years as a mature student in the Evening Sessions, studying the craft of writing in an environment of youth and enthusiasm.

In 1999, at the age of 68, she was asked to teach Creative Writing to senior citizens of The Meadows Complex in East Meadow and taught there for six months of the year, for ten years. Her scope of teaching Creative Writing expanded to the Walter G. O'Connell High School Adult Education, and to the Lindenhurst, Copiague, Massapequa and Amityville Libraries where she had a large following of men and women. Some of her prose and poetry was published in local newspapers. She was especially proud of the title the Lindenhurst Library gave her. "Writer in Residence".

In keeping with her humanitarian beliefs, she has donated her body to the Department of Anatomical Sciences, at the School of Medicine at the State University of New York at Stony Brook for use for medical study and research.

The family will receive friends at the D'Andrea Bros. Funeral Home on Saturday, November 19th, from 10 a.m. to 12 Noon. A Memorial Mass will be celebrated for the repose of her soul later that day at 3:00 p.m. at Our Lady of the Assumption R.C. Church. Should anyone wish to memorialize her life of service, Masses would be appreciated. However, monetary donations may be made to the Cenacle Retreat House, Cenacle Road, Ronkonkoma, New York, 11779, for the kindness and spiritual comfort the Sisters gave to her and her late husband over the years.

A final note from Mary herself: If after I leave this world, you ever remember me and have thoughts to please my soul, please forget the flowers. Instead, give a pat on the head to some stray animal and treat it with tenderness and love. And if you really wish to please me, give a helping hand to the needy, voiceless creatures of nature. Thank you and God bless you all. Arriverderci!