Alexander Talcott Fleming

Alexander “Xander” Talcott Fleming passed away unexpectedly at his home on February 1, 2023 at the age of 62. Xander was born on December 30, 1960 in Houston, Texas. He was an alumni of Eaglebrook School and Houston Memorial High School, and graduated from The University of Texas at Austin in 1988. Xander moved to Austin in 1981, where he fell in love with the city, its music scene, and its culture. After living in central Austin for many years, in 2022, he bought a beautiful ranch home nearby, in San Marcos, where he spent his last days.

Xander worked as a software engineer for over 20 years before retiring to follow his true passions, which included skiing, live music, and Burning Man. He was a talented skier and an active member of the Austin Ski Club, and joined at least one of their ski trip activities annually for many years, up until his passing.

Xander began attending Burning Man 13 years ago, and has attended every year since with his camp, "Anonymous Village." In the last few years, he played several integral roles on the playa, including Anonymous Village set up and tear down, Ranger Crew, Sanctuary, and Mutant Vehicle DMV. He was also part of several regional burns and was scheduled to visit South Africa in April, as he had recently been accepted into the AfrikaBurn Ranger Crew Programme.

His love of music drew him to the Austin live music scene, where his back-stage contributions are noteworthy. He stage managed annually at Old Settlers Music Festival and Austin’s own SXSW (one time he stage managed for Billie Eilish!).

In addition, Xander was of service within his local and online recovery fellowships. As a Trusted Servant, Xander was involved in hosting recovery related meetings and supported many people in finding a new way of life. Xander passed away with 13.5 years of continuous sobriety.

Xander is survived by “his girls”, daughters Alexandra B. Fleming (Ally) and Amy Kathleen Fleming (Kat), former spouse Janie Grant Fleming, his “bonus mom” Kathryn Fleming, his older brother William C. Fleming and wife Norma, his “bonus sister” Robin Woodworth and husband John, and numerous nieces and nephews that fondly knew him as their “Uncle Z”.

Xander is preceded in death by his parents, William T. Fleming, Jr. and Joan H. Fleming, paternal grandmother Isabella D. Sage, bonus grandfather Henry D. Sage, paternal grandfather William T. Fleming, Sr., bonus grandmother Esther H. Fleming, and maternal grandparents Charlton B. and Esther B. Hibbard.

In lieu of flowers, please make donations to RecoveryATX or Burners Without Borders. More information regarding a services soon.

We are hosting a Celebration of Life for Xander Fleming at Umlauf Sculpture Garden & Museum, Saturday February 18th.

Please wear what makes you feel best. Colors and festive outfits welcomed and encouraged.

Arrival at 5:30pm, ceremony at 6pm. Food, tunes, and many beauties of Umlauf Garden and Museum to view. There will be staff to support in parking.