Tony was one of the first people to welcome me to my new middle school. Naturally, most of the kids had made friendships from elementary in years past, and here i was a fish out of water and  and covered in bandages from head to toe from an accident i had that summer. "Dang man, what happened to you?!" He asked ALL the questions that everybody had been wondering and broke the ice between me and everyone in class. Everyone loved Tony and if he liked you, it was almost like you were vetted as an ok kid. Tony was alot of people's first real connection with someone outside of what we typically view as American culture and what a wonderful guide he was. He taught me so many things  that i might never have learned and introduced me to so many people that i might never have known. And i cherish those experiences. There are people in this world that when you're  around them you can kinda just feel good vibes; you just feel the goodness in them. And Tony was one of those people to me. He was always light hearted, funny, and a joy to be around. Life had kind of positioned me out of Tonys orbit, and truthfully i missed him even before hearing the news, and that feeling only grows now. This entry is assuredly late, but I hope all the seeds you have sewn in lives like mine continue have continued to blossom and I hope to see you again. Love to your family and should anyone need anything, please allow me to be the blessing Tony was for me.

Man...it was tough hearing this about such a great person and overall fun guy. It’s been a while, but given the way we all came up and all the years we spent together, it still hurts.  I was always inquisitive of what it was like to walk in another person’s shoes and we would talk about it sometimes.  Being in a Small (Gifted/Advanced) separated class from everyone most of our school years, and being the only or one of a few minorities, I gravitated to him.  Just a funny dude! I remember thinking to myself “Man this guy needs to be on TV or doing some stand up..” lol...but he was insanely smart as well.  He’ll never be forgotten and I appreciate the small piece of time we had together.  My thoughts and prayers to the family and extended network of friends, colleagues, associates and classmates that this impacts.  I’ll be seeing you my brother.  Amen. 

When Malayah finally came home from the NICU you were there to help us take care of the girls til I was all healed ..ever since then you had that special bond with them .. over the many years we want to thank you for being there for the girls and making memories from coming to their birthday parties to beach trips which will not  be the same without you but we will never ever forget those fun times .. we will surely miss those times and will cherish them forever in our hearts 
RIP Uncle Ny Ny 

From the day you kept Maeley when she was 19 months old while I was in the hospital on bed rest she had always had that bond with you and it grew over the years ... she will always cherish those fun loving memories that will never be forgotten.. I’m sure she will forever miss your voice as soon as she hears you come in the house running down stairs and Calling Uncle NY NY to put her on your shoulders (kee kau) .. we love you and miss you dearly 
RIP Uncle Ny Ny


Where do I even begin? My heart is literally broken that you’re no longer here to be your funny , goofy, self. You always made everyone laugh and smile around you. You were MY first love , my high school sweetheart and that I’ll never forget . To be so young  and in love . You  were a big part of my life for the 4 years we were together as I was yours. You showed me what a true gentleman was  and showed me what it felt like to be treated like a queen . I’m sorry if I never got a chance to tell you. Thank you for being so caring and for being you. I believe everything happens  for a reason and even though the stars didn’t align for  us in this lifetime I pray I get to see you in the next. I will hold and cherish all the memories forever close to my heart.  I pray you have found your peace . Fly high until we meet again .  Love always -Lisa K . 

Deeply saddened. You will be missed!
RIP Tony 💔 #myboytony

Tony Always made every gathering we had fun!  He was the life of the party dancing and always singing.  I’m seriously going to miss you so much. 

I'll always remember the fun times we had hanging out with our brothers and sisters. It didn't matter where we were at, we always had fun. I'll always be " Clint Eastwood " to you Tony. Love always & forever.  

Felt the need to share some more about my brother Tony. I miss you so much. I aspire to be as shameless as you. Nothing embarrassed you, you were who you were and no one could say or do anything to stop that. I admire you so much for that. You’d do anything for a laugh and it was always about making someone else happy, not to have the spotlight. That’s so rare. You were the only person I know that would rather talk on the phone. I’ll forever miss your random calls and our conversations that lasted an hour at a time while feeling like we’d only been talking for minutes. I wish I would’ve called you more. I love you, Tony X! c-mung. I’ll never forget you. 

I met Tony aka “Toe-Knee” in Orlando. You couldn’t miss him... he was the brightest person in the room. The bright neons matched him inside and out. Tony was such a nice, caring happy person. He was always thinking of others... always making sure that you were ok or having a good time.  I didn’t know him long... but he definitely is an unforgettable person and will forever be in my heart. 

Rest easy, Mr. Ice Cream Man  

Wow, this is so sad. I remember I saw him at Fuji Steak and Sushi a couple months back. We knew each other through my ex and from me knowing a lot of the Asian people around town. He always remembered my name, which goes to show you that he was a great soul that cared and he served a great purpose in the world. You’ll be missed my friend. 

Tony was such a funny and amazing guy!!! He taught me sooooo many different workouts at the gym and our conversations at Rain were like no other! He was always such a positive person with a smile on his face! I’m glad I was able to meet him and make such great memories! 

I met Tony also known as (Rocket man) I don’t know how he got this name!. I met him through my husband Robby. He was full of laughter and always smiling. Although Him and Robby worked at different electrical companies they worked some on the weekends together. We were shocked when we heard of the passing. Gone to soon. Our Condolences go out the family and may Tony RIP. 

First time I met him right after we were introduced he said, "you're the chocolate Tony and I'm the peanut butter Tony, Reece's power go!" He did everything you asked him with a kind of flare and laughter that made it stop being about work.  He made you want to come to be there. It became a concert called, "The Tony X Show". Just when you thought he was just a class clown he would come up with some new idea or way of doing even the smallest things. He often had me saying I wish I thought of that.  Smart, hard working, funny, outspoken are just some of the things that describe this man. It was an honor to work beside him. 

I am shocked and grieved to find one of my favorite student and athlete passing away.  I ran into Tony a few years back and he thanked me for what part in life that I had imparted to him.  Tony was so grateful and thankful for anything being done for him.  My sympathies to the family for their loss.  Tony was a member of my family too.


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Southyda "Tony" Xaphakdy

September 3, 1981 – January 24, 2020

Chattanooga Funeral Home, Crematory & Florist-Valley View Chapel

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